@RealBarbie hey dear, sorry about how you feel, I know the feeling, I've found myself in the same situation and here's what worked for me..
I decided to see more beauty in me than ever, I made myself looked better always, I didn't feel pity for me nor anyone, I told myself that a closed door does not mean a closed destiny; ( you deserve better ) you're so special so its not you who lost him, he lost you.
@Angel94647 I see your boyfriend Is a confused person who doesn't even understand his own feelings towards you . He's like unsure of anything , for me that sounds weak ! His personality Is not much mature as I see , so my advice just move on and make a closure .
@Angel94647 He dropped almost all of your stuff off, quickly. That's a pretty clear and strong gesture. If he has kept some of your things like DVDs he could have not realised, he may have changed so much he wanted them for himself, or may be keeping them so that that link is still there as power over you - unfortunately that is the sort of thing people do when then they break up with others and don't genuinely care any more but think they might want to backtrack later, it gives them an excuse. Message him today and say that if you have broken up (as he says you have) you'll need the rest of your things back asap. It is simple, fair, and reasonable - leaving things longer will only make it more painful. Doing this will also open the dialogue you want.
He didn't ask what was going on when you went to the hospital and you still need other people to spell it out? His reply seems like polite detachment but I bet at least 9 in 10 of your friends would have shown real concern and asked properly what was wrong along with a lot of strangers too. And he couldn't. That should tell you all you need to know. He has ignored you. Rejected your calls. The guy may have issues but HE DOES NOT WANT TO KNOW.
Perhaps he hasn't changed his relationship status because although he has made the decision it is hard for him, or perhaps (more likely) he simply is waiting for you to do it so that he can feel less guilty. Either way it doesn't matter! This guy has finished with you and is making no effort to reach out! He didn't even let you pick your things up yourself, just emptied his life/home of you and your property and fucked off leaving you lost! Seriously, if he cared at all he would still be checking up on you. Instead he's got you on the end of a string thinking of him constantly and reading into signs which don't mean a thing next to his ACTIONS.
I can tell your a good and caring person. Everybody fucks up but seriously, you deserve better treatment than this. You need to see that, and if he can't see that then it is his loss not yours. He sure is no "king" - after the way he has been treating you since he broke from you he is the one who would be lucky to receive a second chance from you. Don't get confused and forget that.
It sounds like you drove him to this :( A guy with no problem keeping aside his ego and admitting his faults, has abandoned you, you might as well conclude that it's all getting too much for him. Please try looking past your own woes, he said he loves you but cannot bear anymore of the pain being inflicted upon him. He sounds like a genuine person worth going back to. He'd love to know that you value him just as much and are willing to put in efforts. When your other half gets angry, instead of retaliating and making it a war of ego, think about them.
I went through the same phase, my guy told me the harshest things about myself and they were actually true. After this mega fight, he said he needs a break for months. Since he called my out on my flaws, I accepted them immediately and apologized and asked him not to give up on us. I wouldn't say we've nullified all of our problems, but he's very happy and stress free since then.
Guys don't like hearing you complain or fighting. Even when there are issues, try taking them out with him. If he cannot change himself, you gotta evaluate what's more important to you, him or the issue. You have to accept that most of the times, HE WON'T CHANGE. It's pretty hard finding decent people men out there, so don't throw away all the love for little issues.
For example, my major complain always was that he has no time for me. That I'm his last priority, he places everything about us at the end. But it isn't so, men are weird :p They think of one thing at a time, while his career might be his first priority, it doesn't mean you have no place in his heart.
All in all, true love is feeling 'Darling when you're in pain, my world stops.'
@Angel94647 HI im a guy....I've been there I had a crush on a girl and it turns out she had one on me to but the day when I wanted to ask her out her ex came along and asked her out again.😭She said yes I got over it by not having any contact with her anymore and I just keep thinking that there's someone better out there and that she wasn't meant for me 😄
Just added you.
Going thru a rough breakup myself and tho our interests are miles apart, I think feelings and how to deal with them are pretty universal.
Please don't think I'm a freak when you see my profile & nickname, joined in a different state of mind as I am now.
Sometimes, closure will come to you when you didn't find or ask for it anymore. Someday, you will feel the warm of your heart and your face will be filled with your smile again. On that day, you will start to realize how grateful you were for not thinking of that someone again, you will just laugh at your foolish acts before and everything will fall into its places. Time heals all wounds! Cheer up :)
I could recommend you to go somewhere alone. The best would be a beautifull place, of wich you are shure that you will stay undisturbed. Eventually bring some Alcohol with you. But not knock yourself out with it, just enough to enhance feelings. Like 1 Beer or something like that. Sit down and think all aspects of the relationship through. Take your time and just think. Do nothing else. After a while you schould rationalise the whole topic and then think of positive parts of your live. What you still have and will soon get. Think of your friends, your family, your dreams that you still want to accomplish, etc. When you have cleared your head go back home and fell better. I hope this will help you. I wish you good luck.