@BlossomingLove that's y it is important to set some rules. Also it's important to know your boundaries. How would I know if it is "safe" for you.
The problem is what is ur normals. What ur mind has unconsciously set normals. Once u able to change that then might have control over ur desires.
What you have concerned about is ur desires have control over you. That's the most toxic relationship. Every human should try to take control over it. That's real freedom.
I can't answer your question, since I don't know you irl and one should be responsible for their actions. But I can told you why it is important.
It doesn't mean I'm 100% free from my desires. I don't want to. But I'm on a journey to have control over it. So I can be better. This topic is just an attempt to share my journey with people and to put my thoughts into words.