What an intense and touching story. First of all, don't try to make him fall in love with you. Love happens, it comes looking for you, it should not be forced. If your boyfriend is depressed and you force him to do something he will think that you are trying to "fix" him, make him the way you want him, and eventually he won't feel accepted. He is with you, because he wants to be with you, I think he is exactly where he wants to be and with whom he wants .. or he would have already left. Depression is a dark evil, only you two know your past, but while you have found the positive strength to want to overcome, the dark times, he is probably just afraid, afraid of being hurt, abandoned (he would prefer loneliness). His is probably a silent cry for help. Love him and accept him for what he is and above all be patient, talk about everything, be natural, find something to do with him that is only yours and his .. if you really love him, this love will bear fruit. From the bottom of my heart, I wish you both much happiness. And I'll give you a red tulip, a symbol of true love .. give it to him too :)