@DAD_ said in How to recognize the right one?:
@petrapark3r
Nothing lasts forever. Especially sexual Love.
But what stays with you till your last breathe is Respect.
Agreed that physical attraction, the sexual side of love will eventually fade. But I'm not so sure that only respect would remain. I can imagine tenderness to stay, a pleasure in the other's presence, maybe even devotion... Well, like, all the other things that make up love, apart from sexual interaction...
Instead of wasting your energy and time in finding 'the one'
Strive to become a person, who can be respected.
Who knows his priorities in life.
Who has control over himself, emotionally and physically.
And who, is capable of being loved.
Well said.
And when that morbid realisation strikes, that 'they are not the one.'
You will not find Mr. Perfect walking this earth, and the one you may think is Mr. Perfect will turn out not to be for sure, yeah...
I don't think it has to. I hope I have made it clear that I do not understand the one to be Mr. Perfect.
Then begin to love their uniqueness. While maintaining, your standards and priorities in life.
This is one test, to not only decide your love for them, but also what you, as a person really are..
Because if you truly ever loved them, then you would respect them, till the worlds end.
And if you leave them, at this point. Then my friend, you are nothing but a person driven by his hormones, who falls for the first thick ass he sees.
: )
Agreed, affection, tenderness and all those other things won't always be there. You cannot rely on them to carry you through. Love is what you do, when no good feelings drive you anymore.
But I don't think they have to die completely. In fact I'm rather certain you can keep them alive. Not in every hour, maybe not every day. But I think they should be there in a real marriage...