Why wait til marriage ?



  • What is your stand about this?



  • @Lurker said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @cjko

    I think marriage is just a party...
    Don't get me wrong, i'm not against it! But I don't need a party or to sign a paper to know i'm in love and I wanna be with someone for the rest of my life. And if someone needs proofs of that with a party or paper mby he didn't loved her good enought! 🤷
    As I said, I would like to marry one day but more then that I would like to be with the person I love forever!
    So no, I don't wanna wait till marriage, I wanna wait till I find someone like that!

    Hmm, you're entitled for that opinion and I respect your preferences. For me, that's one of the factors why marriage fails. Purity and chastity have gone out of fashion nowadays. The crisis of values ​​has led many young people to see that "intimate activity" as the center of their dating relationship.. As what I have observed, men just left women after they got what they want from them and that indeed destroys souls. In addition, that's (IMO) the reason why abortion and overpopulation rampant on EARTH.



  • @cjko I think it all depends on the people and their views. I agree, many guys will leave as soon as they get what they want and waiting for marriage is a good way to keep those guys away. But it is important to recognize everyone's views and reasons. Some think intimacy is important and should be explored because it is apart of the bond and love you create with someone. Some people don't even recognize emotional ties when it comes to such things and therefore something like that isn't important to them in a relationship. Some people put more concentration into emotional bonds, some put it into physical ones. Everyone is different, and that's okay. The only thing that matters is that you believe in your own views enough to stick to them and find someone that shares the same kind.


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    @cjko this could be two different topics, people have forgotten (or have not been properly educated) on what marriage is because there are few true marriages going on. Many people being against religion doesn't help either (although you can get married anywhere), and its become something hollow. Its not about performance in front of God, or a big party, or just something that costs a lot of money. You know when you first fall in love? You're all bubbly and you wanna tell eeeeeveryone about that person? Yeah, marriage is that. And when you make a decision, you tell your friends so they help you keep accountable. You just wanna get all your friends and favorite people in the same place and scream "I choose this crazy human to go on adventures with!", you share it because its awesome to share your favorite things with the people you love. ❤ As for "waiting" for it, im guessing its about s e x. My answer would be yes. One, because we have spoiled men. We give them what they want before they're committed and then wonder why they lose interest. Humm.
    The thing i've learned (and it's not free of pain) is, IF you wait, you tend to weed out the boys/men who will eventually leave you down the line.
    It takes a shit load of self control but for me, I would give my pinky (and i have such an adorable pinky toe) to meet a guy who would write letters and wants to "wait" until we get closer. Because waiting, used to be a regular thing. Waiting used to be a part of it, the waiting made the journey super cool, you were invested in the person and the leading up to it.
    Marriages now fail (imo) because we jump into relationships too fast and we fall in love with potential, not giving people enough time to reveal their true selves.
    Mostly, if you wait, the guy who waits for you is probably gonna be a million times better than any a*****e who just wanted to move fast. 😉
    (sorry for the long rant)



  • @cjko said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    Don't get me wrong, i'm not against it! But I don't need a party or to sign a paper to know i'm in love and I wanna be with someone for the rest of my life. And if someone needs proofs of that with a party or paper mby he didn't loved her good enough

    "Don't get me wrong, i'm not against it! But I don't need a party or to sign a paper to know i'm in love and I wanna be with someone for the rest of my life. And if someone needs proofs of that with a party or paper mby he didn't loved her good enough"

    As to sign a paper to know if you're in love, why not?
    Do you mean, you wanted to be available to everyone and not tied to that person you're in love with ?



  • @cjko Why marry at all ?



  • @cjko for me waiting for marriage is good because when 2 people doing it not only the have connected with their body the also connect their souls together. So when you do after you marriage, after you swear to stay with your second half, then there is no problem do it.
    Also if you wait until marriage you can build stong relationship based on the personality of each other and more great stuff. That's my opinion.


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    @Itiel much appreciated. 🙂 from what i can see (from my happily married friends), the key is to do things together, like friends do. (s e x is a bonus, but sharing interests and actually doing other things together as friends seems to be what makes it last)



  • @Lurker said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @cjko said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    As what I have observed, men kids just left women after they got what they want from them

    I corrected your previous statement for you 😅
    A real man that loves for real won't leave after they get what they want, as soon as they do, the real ride just started!

    @cjko said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    Do you mean, you wanted to be available to everyone and not tied to that person you're in love with ?

    If I'm in a relationship with someone, it means i'm with someone and only that someone, not the rest of the world. I don't need a paper to "chain" me to that person, only feelings do. Proof is how some arranged marriege exists and have no feelings and are never happy, was waiting till marriage worth it? I don't think so.
    Real feelings is what keeps a relationship alive, not signing a paper or making a party to show the world we are together. Love is about you and the person whom you love not anyone else!

    If you are feeling that "real feeling" with someone, why not tie it with her? If you are really certain that she's the one. I think, you are still leaving yourself open for the possibilities that when relationship doesn't work, you throw it and date someone again and repeat the cycle.



  • @Lurker said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @cjko said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    If you are feeling that "real feeling" with someone, why not tie it with her? If you are really certain that she's the one. I think, you are still leaving yourself open for the possibilities that when relationship doesn't work, you throw it and date someone again and repeat the cycle.

    If she wants to marry I won't deny it, If I know she wants to marry hell, i'll propose to her even, i'm just saying that, for me, in my opinion, I don't need a marriage to any of that which makes me answer to "no" to your topic, I don't need to wait till marriage just till I find someone I love like that 😂

    I think, you value more the physical connection than the emotional, psychological and spiritual. I observed most men are like that..


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    @cjko @Zen00 @Lurker @Barton
    well.....Nice topic
    I wanna give my thoughts on this, even i was thinking to create a topic like this....
    Well....
    Indians Prefer Arrange Marriage more....About 80% of peoples in India are Arranged Marriage..
    Not even Indians, Muslims do too, about 90% of muslims do only Arrange Marriage

    On the other hand, in areas like America,Europe,etc....99% of peoples, there do Love Marriages

    Lets compare this two, Compare the consequences between this two, Lets compare the statistics like......Rape, Divorces,etc... About areas....U dont know, But sadly America have higher divorce rates, Higer cheatings in relationship, Higher relationship issues, Higher rapes,etc..... Sorry my American friends

    So now, why wait till Marriage??...Marriage is not just a little piece of paper, u dont know anything about Marriage, Marriage is a huge thing, its accepting the person in your Nikah(Marriage), in front of bunch of peoples(Peoples r mandatory), and like promising the Girl, that He will remain always with her No matter what in any situation, and take care of her. Accepting her in your Nikah(Marriage) So as her soul will be yours, You are taking a responsibility of her soul, And she is truly agreeing that u can now Make Physical touch(Sèx) with her, and Have kids & Family from her.....

    Sèx before Marriage is a huge sin......
    So, I think, Before making any physical contact with her, we should marry her.....
    But the problem is, we dont do😂😂, Humans likes to do sins..
    And there is a pleasure from making every sin😂😂
    We make Sins, We Do sèx😂😂, we always wants to fùck each other lol😂😂
    We should not do it, But We cant help ourselves but to do sins, we cant control ourselves?? 😂😂😂
    So, I stand with marriage 🙂



  • @Jimmy1708 said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @cjko @Zen00 @Lurker @Barton

    Lets compare this two, Compare the consequences between this two, Lets compare the statistics like......Rape, Divorces,etc... About areas....U dont know, But sadly America have higher divorce rates, Higer cheatings in relationship, Higher relationship issues, Higher rapes,etc..... Sorry my American friends

    I knew this 😂

    So now, why wait till Marriage??...Marriage is not just a little piece of paper, u dont know anything about Marriage, Marriage is a huge thing, its accepting the person in your Nikah(Marriage), in front of bunch of peoples(Peoples r mandatory), and like promising the Girl, that He will remain always with her No matter what in any situation, and take care of her. Accepting her in your Nikah(Marriage) So as her soul will be yours, You are taking a responsibility of her soul

    Living in America, it is hard to see marriage this way. People get married and divorced so much that is almost the equivalent to dating 😭



  • @Jimmy1708 said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @cjko @Zen00 @Lurker @Barton
    well.....Nice topic
    I wanna give my thoughts on this, even i was thinking to create a topic like this....
    Well....
    Indians Prefer Arrange Marriage more....About 80% of peoples in India are Arranged Marriage..
    Not even Indians, Muslims do too, about 90% of muslims do only Arrange Marriage

    On the other hand, in areas like America,Europe,etc....99% of peoples, there do Love Marriages

    Lets compare this two, Compare the consequences between this two, Lets compare the statistics like......Rape, Divorces,etc... About areas....U dont know, But sadly America have higher divorce rates, Higer cheatings in relationship, Higher relationship issues, Higher rapes,etc..... Sorry my American friends

    So now, why wait till Marriage??...Marriage is not just a little piece of paper, u dont know anything about Marriage, Marriage is a huge thing, its accepting the person in your Nikah(Marriage), in front of bunch of peoples(Peoples r mandatory), and like promising the Girl, that He will remain always with her No matter what in any situation, and take care of her. Accepting her in your Nikah(Marriage) So as her soul will be yours, You are taking a responsibility of her soul, And she is truly agreeing that u can now Make Physical touch(Sèx) with her, and Have kids & Family from her.....

    Sèx before Marriage is a huge sin......
    So, I think, Before making any physical contact with her, we should marry her.....
    But the problem is, we dont do😂😂, Humans likes to do sins..
    And there is a pleasure from making every sin😂😂
    We make Sins, We Do sèx😂😂, we always wants to fùck each other lol😂😂
    We should not do it, But We cant help ourselves but to do sins, we cant control ourselves?? 😂😂😂
    So, I stand with marriage 🙂

    I don't agree with arranged marriage.. but I support wait til marriage.


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    @Zen00

    Living in America, it is hard to see marriage this way. People get married and divorced so much that is almost the equivalent to dating 😭

    Not sure if i should laugh or cry at how accurate this is.



  • @cjko

    I think marriage is just a party...
    Don't get me wrong, i'm not against it! But I don't need a party or to sign a paper to know i'm in love and I wanna be with someone for the rest of my life. And if someone needs proofs of that with a party or paper mby he didn't loved her good enought! 🤷
    As I said, I would like to marry one day but more then that I would like to be with the person I love forever!
    So no, I don't wanna wait till marriage, I wanna wait till I find someone like that!



  • @cjko said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    As what I have observed, men kids just left women after they got what they want from them

    I corrected your previous statement for you 😅
    A real man that loves for real won't leave after they get what they want, as soon as they do, the real ride just started!

    @cjko said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    Do you mean, you wanted to be available to everyone and not tied to that person you're in love with ?

    If I'm in a relationship with someone, it means i'm with someone and only that someone, not the rest of the world. I don't need a paper to "chain" me to that person, only feelings do. Proof is how some arranged marriege exists and have no feelings and are never happy, was waiting till marriage worth it? I don't think so.
    Real feelings is what keeps a relationship alive, not signing a paper or making a party to show the world we are together. Love is about you and the person whom you love not anyone else!



  • @cjko said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    If you are feeling that "real feeling" with someone, why not tie it with her? If you are really certain that she's the one. I think, you are still leaving yourself open for the possibilities that when relationship doesn't work, you throw it and date someone again and repeat the cycle.

    If she wants to marry I won't deny it, If I know she wants to marry hell, i'll propose to her even, i'm just saying that, for me, in my opinion, I don't need a marriage to any of that which makes me answer to "no" to your topic, I don't need to wait till marriage just till I find someone I love like that 😂



  • @Zen00 said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @cjko I think it all depends on the people and their views. I agree, many guys will leave as soon as they get what they want and waiting for marriage is a good way to keep those guys away. But it is important to recognize everyone's views and reasons. Some think intimacy is important and should be explored because it is apart of the bond and love you create with someone. Some people don't even recognize emotional ties when it comes to such things and therefore something like that isn't important to them in a relationship. Some people put more concentration into emotional bonds, some put it into physical ones. Everyone is different, and that's okay. The only thing that matters is that you believe in your own views enough to stick to them and find someone that shares the same kind.

    yeah, I agree. We do have different LOVE LANGUAGES. Are you familiar with that ?

    because why not ? haha do you want to die alone ?



  • @Barton do you want to die alone ? haha



  • @cjko said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @Zen00 said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @cjko I think it all depends on the people and their views. I agree, many guys will leave as soon as they get what they want and waiting for marriage is a good way to keep those guys away. But it is important to recognize everyone's views and reasons. Some think intimacy is important and should be explored because it is apart of the bond and love you create with someone. Some people don't even recognize emotional ties when it comes to such things and therefore something like that isn't important to them in a relationship. Some people put more concentration into emotional bonds, some put it into physical ones. Everyone is different, and that's okay. The only thing that matters is that you believe in your own views enough to stick to them and find someone that shares the same kind.

    yeah, I agree. We do have different LOVE LANGUAGES. Are you familiar with that ?

    Si that's cute:))

    because why not ? haha do you want to die alone ?

    Ofcourse not! I don't think I will though, I think getting into relationships is easy and I think any two people can do it. You just have to find the one that you want to be in a relationship with the most!:)



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