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Does he genuinly like me or does he only want me for sex?
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Does he genuinly like me or does he only want me for sex?
There's this guy from school who suddenly texted me out of nowhere saying hey! Big fan here. We started texting more late nights and I got attached. In the beginning he was very sweet to me and all. He would compliment me in texts asking you are so nice and all. He would send his selfies in the morning and wish me gm and gn everyday. We would send heart emoticons to each other. After few days he confessed to me he likes me. But sometimes he would flirt with me saying I feel like giving you a hug from behind. In between we had a fight but then I sorted it out. After that he started telling me he is busy again and again. We like wwe so when I talk about it He tells me you are so awesome, Let's marry. Then tells me he is kidding. Then he asked me should he propose I told him I dont feel the same way. Recently he asked me If I am a virgin. I got mad at him confronted saying this was disrespectful he told me sorry and deleted the text and I blocked him on instagram. He whatsapped me saying thought you were mature enough and blocked me there. Now I added him back and rekindled things with him. Did he genuinly like me or did he just wanted me for sex?[link text](link url) -
That was a rather immature and disrespectful question, and he is wrong to try to turn it around onto you by accusing you of not being mature. It doesn't sound like a healthy or stable friendship for you, I suspect that yes there is some agenda on his part as he is not treating you kindly like a true friend who genuinely likes you would.
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@heycutie He want sex . Game over
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@matt_aranha There is no opposite sex friendships , they all want sex in the end but some just take emotional support to feel more confident of themselves and wait for the rest to happen and others are confident but want sex right away so they leave if they get rejected
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Difficult one, I'd say the answer is both, and it sounds like that's been pretty obvious from the get go. From the beginning he has done everything a young person would do with their crush and it sounds like in most cases you reciprocated until you realised and didn't fancy him that way or whatever. I don't think asking if your a virgin is any sort of red flag because if you had a close friendship you would be able to talk about those things, plus if the answer was "no I'm not" he may have found it easier to be up front with you about what he wanted. Of course you didn't want to talk about it and that's totally fine, but like you can tell him it's off the table without blocking him then you would be able to tell whether he was cool or not because if you said not interested he would either continue being a friend and cut back the flirtation or stop talking to you. As it is now you blocked him, unblocked him, led him on subconsciously with your reciprocation of hearts and hugs, and are probably doing the same thing again now. Think properly about what it is you want and tell him and then base your decision about your friendship on what his reaction is. It sounds like you are both young and neither can read each others minds, so talk. The likelihood is neither of you are intending to be manipulative or after just one specific thing but if you communicate better you may find out how those wires became crossed.
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@alicey2k now he isn't talking to me much. Its me only initiating the conversation
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@tm I respect that your experiences are different to others, but don't project them onto either me or somebody else - that's shady as fuck.
I hope that one day you are able to enjoy a truly platonic cross-gender friendship, it'll open your eyes to a whole new world.
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@heycutie you get attached too easily. He seems to be just testing the waters, nothing harmful yet, I think. Ofc he wants to fuck you, if you let yourself he would be already balls deep in you. XD if he's ignoring you now, just forget him, boys at this age are temporary :)
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@matt_aranha I've been through platonic cross gender friendship it was quite amazing but at the end this girl will leave u if u don't give her love (romantically)and sex cz she simply needs it . So it's not only about men wanting sex from girls it's also girls wanting that " exceptional lover " or " amazing fucker " they can't just stick around with a platonic intellectual and spiritual guy .
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@tm Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaannd you're still doing it.
I get it, haven't experienced lasting platonic friendships with the opposite sex. You haven't seen (or just don't recognise) it amongst the people you know. You really aren't alone, sad to say there are a great many people who aren't capable of seeing that we have more in common than that which makes us different, reducing people to their gender has been a flaw of much of civilisation since long before either of us was born.
But don't dare presume to speak on behalf of me and other men that we view girls/women that way and automatically want sex with them, you don't know me and you don't know all men. If you want to try telling everybody here that the women I'm platonic friends with (for over a quarter of a century in some cases) are suddenly going to "leave if I don't give them romantic love and sex" or that I can't make new platonic friendships which last as long, more fool you. It's pitiable and frankly insulting to all. I'm not trying to be a dick (it comes naturally when I read stuff like this 😉), you are however WRONG - open your mind?
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@matt_aranha hahaha I like the way you said " don't dare ... " why don't you go and study how the human self works maybe , why not? Plus you said im speaking on behalf of u and other men .. arent u talking on behalf of other men too ? Anyways do whatever u like im not changing my mind abt opposite sex friendships even if some exceptions survive the sexual attraction and the boners they get it doesnt mean that most cases are exceptions obviously .
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You was very immature to block him
You should have just expressed your concerns openely and if your not happy then you could have asked for him to no longer message you
Im sure he would be pissed but if the reasons are valid im sure he would respe t and cease contact
Blocking people is the silliest thing girls do without probable cause...
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@tm said in Does he genuinly like me or does he only want me for sex?:
@matt_aranha why don't you go and study how the human self works maybe , why not?
You mean like when I was top of my year out of over a hundred Psychology students and the only one in my class who passed our mid-year exam? What a BRILLIANT idea, why didn't I think of that? 🤦♂️😂
You don't need to study anything to not be judgemental or to have basic human empathy...
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@matt_aranha 👏 Bravo Im clapping for ur teacher
actually !
