Queen's life drama; help me sort this out!

[QueenLope]

Hi guys,

If any of you want to share your opinion on this matter, I would be greatful~
I've been in my current relationship for around 1 year and I have built my current life around it so I am highly dependent on it.
Let's make this simple, my boyfriend is a performance junkie and has recently purchased a brand new gaming PC and ever since he bought it we have been fighting repetitively.
He just now told me that he will no longer be able to be as present in my life as he used to be because he wants to follow his dream.
That makes me feel unsafe and unsure of what to do.
I feel like I lost a part of myself and I am scared to look forward.

I was thinking you guys could help me out with some wise words~~

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[QueenLope]

@evan-elderson Ok! Thank you for the advice!

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[Cheesecake.Lesb]

@queenlope steal his brand new gaming PC, smash it with a fucking hammer, take pleasure in his horrified face, and walk away.

[Stranger_Danger]

First let me say I'm sorry ,you had to come to such a position.
I donot envy your position, dear.

Second ,I will say this I have been in war of heart or the mind myself .

I have been asked sometimes by few of my very good friends to be their significant other ,for romace..
...& let me tell you it sucks ...it sucks to say no
..it sucks to break the heart of your best friends ..

Their eyes to turn down & their hopeful smiles to turn despondent
..to see tears at the edges of their beautiful eyes
...to hear their voice break as they shakily say "No problem ..you are my best friend ,you know ? ..This changes nothing (it does...)"

..it sucks to choose success over companionship.
..It sucks because you know you two could be great ,that you two could be happy forever ...that you two could have a wonderful family & kids ...

The whole American Dream.

I have cried sometimes over the lost opportunities ..the lost paths of my life ..
I have howled in sadness at what could have been ,felt like my heart was breaking apart ...

But in the end , i have chosen to forge on ahead , Once After certain events... I made a promise to myself years ago that I will let nothing distract me from Achieving Greatness . To not veer away from my roadmap of success .

..I have not broken it.
No matter the temptation ... not even when I felt i was dying in heartache

...Success requires Sacrifice.
I will follow my path through....i have made my choice.

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Corinthians 10:13

No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.
And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.

But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

---

You are an adult (at least i think you are ) .

The choices & consequences are yours.
I have made my choice ,i hope i can live with them.

Choose what you believe will make you happy in life.(unless you made a similar vow to mine..)

I pray that yours lead you to happiness.

[Stranger_Danger]

@cheesecake-lesb said in Queen's life drama; help me sort this out!:

@queenlope steal his brand new gaming PC, smash it with a fucking hammer, take pleasure in his horrified face, and walk away.

I'm in sheer awe at the badassery.

[QueenLope]

@stranger_danger Well,
I am grateful for the time and effort you put into going through your past similar experiences in order to help me sort out my dilemma.
Indeed, I regard with respect the choices that you made and are firmly proud of. That actually reminded me of Descartes and his Provisional Morality. The second maxim is to remain firm and decisive in our actions because we have a reason and every action we take and every move we make are thought out which means that, in this case, if this is the only guy I have ever invested my time in, there is a reason and I am planning on giving this relationship another shot.
Yes, I am an adult, an adult that was overwhelmed by her emotions not too long ago, /is highly ashamed/ , but it was worth it as I got what I needed, other perspectives.
Thank you for your wise words~~

[QueenLope]

@cheesecake-lesb
Lmao Not gonna lie, it is somehow tempting.

[KateBeauty]

Nice

[Zazzles]

@queenlope said in Queen's life drama; help me sort this out!:

I've been in my current relationship for around 1 year and I have built my current life around it so I am highly dependent on it.

^^ never be highly dependent on a person/relationship. Always leave something to yourself, be a bit selfish.

[Jacob55]

Were there any issues before the gaming PC? Did you truly realize how much he wanted to be a "Let's Play"er before?

Maybe he feels like you are not being supportive when you are. Maybe you feel like he has lost interest in you since he wants to build his career.

Without knowing more I can't say for sure your best course of action. Keep encouraging his dream, but check and see if he wants you to be part of it. You deserve to know if you are wasting your time with him.

I hope it works out!

[SUmof1]

@queenlope said in Queen's life drama; help me sort this out!:

has recently purchased a brand new gaming PC

Problem: A computer.
Solution: Unplug it (hide the wiring)
Extreme Solution: Disassemble, pour water into it, reassemble and nothing ever happened.

Relationship fixed.

[QueenLope]

@jacob55 Your reply has stood out a lot,
It is true that there is a backstory to it, I am the one who told him that he can get the computer and I told him that I will be supportive about this whole thing.

I have been helping him out with his professional career and I know that this dream is really important for him.

However, I did start to get frustrated has he was putting aside his biological needs (hygiene, food) as he was too obsessed with his new projects involving the computer.

So I asked him to do something about it but things gradually took the wrong path and he ended up telling me that this was really important for him and that he never had the opportunity to follow his dreams in his previous relationships (he is 6 years older than I am).

He also told me that he wanted to follow them now and thus, he won't be able to invest time in the relationship (as much as before), because he is balancing through his professional career, building up his body (gym) and following his dream (playing games and streaming them).

Moreover, he wants me to stay by his side and support him throughout everything.

Thank you for your valuable words, by the way, have a nice day!

[QueenLope]

@sumof1 Never saw it as simple as it actually was!

[Cheesecake.Lesb]

@stranger_danger

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