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Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.
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@cjko said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@petrapark3r said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@cjko said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@petrapark3r well, that's your philosophical views about this topic and I agree to disagree.We are different , we have diverse cultures, belief, upbringing and opinions. Thanks for sharing your choices though
I didn't say it was impossible... But tell me, do you have any experience supporting your view? Have you been together with someone with whom you were not physically compatible (who's smell you didn't like) ?
Nope. I haven't.. but having different emotional and intellectual compatibility make the rs impossible to withstand. Didn't meet halfway, one is always one leap downward to the other.
What is "rs"?
I think if you have emotional compatibility you'll get over that. If you don't rub it into the other one's nose that you're smarter.
Also I believe that especially in our times, the competition between the genders is greatly exaggerated and many relationships fail because the woman wants her man to be stronger than her, but at the same time she needs to prove that she's just as strong in every way.
But you are right, honestly, I think you actually should have three of those, e.g. physical chemistry, emotional & intellectual compatibility. Intellectual compatibility does not have to mean you have to have the same IQ, it means that you get each other, that's good enough for me.
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@cjko Argh, well as a reflex I went straight for emotional and intellectual compatibility. If you're strong and respectful enough of each other you can happily enjoy different lifestyles, I've never placed much of a value on that and find myself happier in the company of someone who mutually empathises with and understands me. I questioned that a little when I read the other responses and totally relate to the scent thing, that is important to me too and can be very bonding with a partner, but for me whilst physical attraction can be a doorway that compatibility is also something which can be built upon. I find the others are more innate.
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@petrapark3r said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@cjko said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@petrapark3r said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@cjko said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@petrapark3r well, that's your philosophical views about this topic and I agree to disagree.We are different , we have diverse cultures, belief, upbringing and opinions. Thanks for sharing your choices though
I didn't say it was impossible... But tell me, do you have any experience supporting your view? Have you been together with someone with whom you were not physically compatible (who's smell you didn't like) ?
Nope. I haven't.. but having different emotional and intellectual compatibility make the rs impossible to withstand. Didn't meet halfway, one is always one leap downward to the other.
What is "rs"?
I think if you have emotional compatibility you'll get over that. If you don't rub it into the other one's nose that you're smarter.
Also I believe that especially in our times, the competition between the genders is greatly exaggerated and many relationships fail because the woman wants her man to be stronger than her, but at the same time she needs to prove that she's just as strong in every way.
But you are right, honestly, I think you actually should have three of those, e.g. physical chemistry, emotional & intellectual compatibility. Intellectual compatibility does not have to mean you have to have the same IQ, it means that you get each other, that's good enough for me.
Rs- relationship.
Atlast you got my point. The topic only needs 2. So, those 2 were top on list. -
@spacegirl spiritual compatibility and what? Why?
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@Matt_Aranha yeah, that's true. Thanks for sharing your views.
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@cjko said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@petrapark3r said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@cjko said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@petrapark3r said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@cjko said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@petrapark3r well, that's your philosophical views about this topic and I agree to disagree.We are different , we have diverse cultures, belief, upbringing and opinions. Thanks for sharing your choices though
I didn't say it was impossible... But tell me, do you have any experience supporting your view? Have you been together with someone with whom you were not physically compatible (who's smell you didn't like) ?
Nope. I haven't.. but having different emotional and intellectual compatibility make the rs impossible to withstand. Didn't meet halfway, one is always one leap downward to the other.
What is "rs"?
I think if you have emotional compatibility you'll get over that. If you don't rub it into the other one's nose that you're smarter.
Also I believe that especially in our times, the competition between the genders is greatly exaggerated and many relationships fail because the woman wants her man to be stronger than her, but at the same time she needs to prove that she's just as strong in every way.
But you are right, honestly, I think you actually should have three of those, e.g. physical chemistry, emotional & intellectual compatibility. Intellectual compatibility does not have to mean you have to have the same IQ, it means that you get each other, that's good enough for me.
Rs- relationship.
Atlast you got my point. The topic only needs 2. So, those 2 were top on list.The top 2 on your list, and I can respect that. I still think chemistry and emotional compatibility are more important, because of what they mean:
- chemistry: you are made for each other, you fit together (it's a sign)
- emotional: you get what's really important about the other, their heart
I think if you really love each other, you can live without really understanding each other intellectually. In fact we will never truly understand the other, so this is part of every relationship, this is part of what love is: to be with someone who's not like you, and sacrifice (compromise) for them, so that you can be together. Must be mutual.
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@petrapark3r agreed.
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@spacegirl thanks
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@cjko To me it is lifestyle compatibility and emotional compatibility.I have chosen lifestyle compatibility because i think if my partner belongs to same ethnicity,culture,religion and social status we will be able to cooperate and understand each other better becoz our way of thinking will like to be same and we will be also physically compatible.Secondly i have chosen emotional compatibility becoz if our way of thinking and emotions towards each other matches we will be able to take decisions in life together without any mental clashes.
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@spacegirl said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:
@cjko Because some things, can not be understood by our minds. Irrational and illogical, but at the same time, so deeply involved in humans relationships. Maybe not spiritual, maybe psychological. Try to choose any word, all of them will be wrong.
Yeah, I too feel there might be something like spiritual compatibility. I think it's a thing.
Psychological might more be on the emotional / intellectual side.
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@cjko I would pick physical chemistry and emotional compatibility...according to me these are a must in a relationship. If you don't feel emotinally connected to and compatible with your partner it definitely leads to many arguments and differences in the relationship and well we all know how important physical compatibility is in a relationship its not just about sex but the concept of becoming one(I guess I've gone too far with that😅) but yeah if chemistry and sparks are missing in a relationship it definitely is a fail to begin with.
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In fact I think it is more important the emotional compatibilty, it all comes down to familiarity and we are, since very little, recieving and building a background of our emotions and the emotions that surround us. As we grow old, we expect to find reencounter most of the emotions we felt as kids, because that's the enviornment we feel comfortable in, even if it's not good or limitating for us. Thanks
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@Roney1718 there are still "mental clashes" that will going to happen even if you're compatible.. it's inevitable. It's about compromise at the end.
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@petrapark3r I agree..
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@Anastasia-Smith thanks for sharing your views.. :)
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@davitchen hmm, thanks