• @Jimmy1708 said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @cjko @Zen00 @Lurker @Barton
    well.....Nice topic
    I wanna give my thoughts on this, even i was thinking to create a topic like this....
    Well....
    Indians Prefer Arrange Marriage more....About 80% of peoples in India are Arranged Marriage..
    Not even Indians, Muslims do too, about 90% of muslims do only Arrange Marriage

    On the other hand, in areas like America,Europe,etc....99% of peoples, there do Love Marriages

    Lets compare this two, Compare the consequences between this two, Lets compare the statistics like......Rape, Divorces,etc... About areas....U dont know, But sadly America have higher divorce rates, Higer cheatings in relationship, Higher relationship issues, Higher rapes,etc..... Sorry my American friends

    So now, why wait till Marriage??...Marriage is not just a little piece of paper, u dont know anything about Marriage, Marriage is a huge thing, its accepting the person in your Nikah(Marriage), in front of bunch of peoples(Peoples r mandatory), and like promising the Girl, that He will remain always with her No matter what in any situation, and take care of her. Accepting her in your Nikah(Marriage) So as her soul will be yours, You are taking a responsibility of her soul, And she is truly agreeing that u can now Make Physical touch(Sรจx) with her, and Have kids & Family from her.....

    Sรจx before Marriage is a huge sin......
    So, I think, Before making any physical contact with her, we should marry her.....
    But the problem is, we dont do๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚, Humans likes to do sins..
    And there is a pleasure from making every sin๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
    We make Sins, We Do sรจx๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚, we always wants to fรนck each other lol๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
    We should not do it, But We cant help ourselves but to do sins, we cant control ourselves?? ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
    So, I stand with marriage :)

    I don't agree with arranged marriage.. but I support wait til marriage.


  • @cjko said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @Jimmy1708 said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @cjko @Zen00 @Lurker @Barton
    well.....Nice topic
    I wanna give my thoughts on this, even i was thinking to create a topic like this....
    Well....
    Indians Prefer Arrange Marriage more....About 80% of peoples in India are Arranged Marriage..
    Not even Indians, Muslims do too, about 90% of muslims do only Arrange Marriage

    On the other hand, in areas like America,Europe,etc....99% of peoples, there do Love Marriages

    Lets compare this two, Compare the consequences between this two, Lets compare the statistics like......Rape, Divorces,etc... About areas....U dont know, But sadly America have higher divorce rates, Higer cheatings in relationship, Higher relationship issues, Higher rapes,etc..... Sorry my American friends

    So now, why wait till Marriage??...Marriage is not just a little piece of paper, u dont know anything about Marriage, Marriage is a huge thing, its accepting the person in your Nikah(Marriage), in front of bunch of peoples(Peoples r mandatory), and like promising the Girl, that He will remain always with her No matter what in any situation, and take care of her. Accepting her in your Nikah(Marriage) So as her soul will be yours, You are taking a responsibility of her soul, And she is truly agreeing that u can now Make Physical touch(Sรจx) with her, and Have kids & Family from her.....

    Sรจx before Marriage is a huge sin......
    So, I think, Before making any physical contact with her, we should marry her.....
    But the problem is, we dont do๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚, Humans likes to do sins..
    And there is a pleasure from making every sin๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
    We make Sins, We Do sรจx๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚, we always wants to fรนck each other lol๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
    We should not do it, But We cant help ourselves but to do sins, we cant control ourselves?? ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
    So, I stand with marriage :)

    I don't agree with arranged marriage.. but I support wait til marriage.

    Ohh ok.....And I Support both, Arrange Marriage & Wait till Marriage too.....

    Bcoz Ugly peoples have the right too to live, they have a right too to have a family...
    I think 25% of Europeana, Americans dont find their love, and died Single....
    In here , in India, even Ugly persons have life and family, About only 1% here die single...

    And same goes for muslims too, only 1% from all Muslims die single....


  • @Jimmy1708 I see.Thanks for sharing that


  • @cjko said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @Jimmy1708 I see.Thanks for sharing that

    Youre Whalecum :)


  • @cjko for me waiting for marriage is good because when 2 people doing it not only the have connected with their body the also connect their souls together. So when you do after you marriage, after you swear to stay with your second half, then there is no problem do it.
    Also if you wait until marriage you can build stong relationship based on the personality of each other and more great stuff. That's my opinion.


  • @Itiel that's cool.. thanks


  • @cjko What do you think of it?


  • @Itiel I agree. It's pretty rare nowadays.. I think 1/1000


  • @cjko I agree. I think its because the culture today educate to be more open and open and because of that people forget about it


  • @Itiel true


  • @cjko this could be two different topics, people have forgotten (or have not been properly educated) on what marriage is because there are few true marriages going on. Many people being against religion doesn't help either (although you can get married anywhere), and its become something hollow. Its not about performance in front of God, or a big party, or just something that costs a lot of money. You know when you first fall in love? You're all bubbly and you wanna tell eeeeeveryone about that person? Yeah, marriage is that. And when you make a decision, you tell your friends so they help you keep accountable. You just wanna get all your friends and favorite people in the same place and scream "I choose this crazy human to go on adventures with!", you share it because its awesome to share your favorite things with the people you love. <3 As for "waiting" for it, im guessing its about s e x. My answer would be yes. One, because we have spoiled men. We give them what they want before they're committed and then wonder why they lose interest. Humm.
    The thing i've learned (and it's not free of pain) is, IF you wait, you tend to weed out the boys/men who will eventually leave you down the line.
    It takes a shit load of self control but for me, I would give my pinky (and i have such an adorable pinky toe) to meet a guy who would write letters and wants to "wait" until we get closer. Because waiting, used to be a regular thing. Waiting used to be a part of it, the waiting made the journey super cool, you were invested in the person and the leading up to it.
    Marriages now fail (imo) because we jump into relationships too fast and we fall in love with potential, not giving people enough time to reveal their true selves.
    Mostly, if you wait, the guy who waits for you is probably gonna be a million times better than any a*****e who just wanted to move fast. ;)
    (sorry for the long rant)


  • @Vanessa-Snow sometimes in life its a good idea to wait before you do something, i see it on myself in a few things. And special when it come to this important stuff, marriage, every person should thing what is more important for him, marking V on his gf or leaving the s*x in the side for a while and exploring new things.
    Great things you wrote btw.


  • @Itiel much appreciated. :) from what i can see (from my happily married friends), the key is to do things together, like friends do. (s e x is a bonus, but sharing interests and actually doing other things together as friends seems to be what makes it last)


  • @Vanessa-Snow Right about it, those are the things that make relationships stronghold.


  • @Vanessa-Snow said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @cjko this could be two different topics, people have forgotten (or have not been properly educated) on what marriage is because there are few true marriages going on. Many people being against religion doesn't help either (although you can get married anywhere), and its become something hollow. Its not about performance in front of God, or a big party, or just something that costs a lot of money. You know when you first fall in love? You're all bubbly and you wanna tell eeeeeveryone about that person? Yeah, marriage is that. And when you make a decision, you tell your friends so they help you keep accountable. You just wanna get all your friends and favorite people in the same place and scream "I choose this crazy human to go on adventures with!", you share it because its awesome to share your favorite things with the people you love. <3 As for "waiting" for it, im guessing its about s e x. My answer would be yes. One, because we have spoiled men. We give them what they want before they're committed and then wonder why they lose interest. Humm.
    The thing i've learned (and it's not free of pain) is, IF you wait, you tend to weed out the boys/men who will eventually leave you down the line.
    It takes a shit load of self control but for me, I would give my pinky (and i have such an adorable pinky toe) to meet a guy who would write letters and wants to "wait" until we get closer. Because waiting, used to be a regular thing. Waiting used to be a part of it, the waiting made the journey super cool, you were invested in the person and the leading up to it.
    Marriages now fail (imo) because we jump into relationships too fast and we fall in love with potential, not giving people enough time to reveal their true selves.
    Mostly, if you wait, the guy who waits for you is probably gonna be a million times better than any a*****e who just wanted to move fast. ;)
    (sorry for the long rant)

    thanks for sharing this , I appreciate it. It's well written and concise btw , I congratulate you for that, haha :D
    Yeah, it's not easy to wait but everything will be worth it.


  • @Zen00

    Living in America, it is hard to see marriage this way. People get married and divorced so much that is almost the equivalent to dating ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    Not sure if i should laugh or cry at how accurate this is.


  • @Vanessa-Snow said in Why wait til marriage ?:

    @Zen00

    Living in America, it is hard to see marriage this way. People get married and divorced so much that is almost the equivalent to dating ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    Not sure if i should laugh or cry at how accurate this is.

    Do both!