Friends are something that an average person needs. Humans are just made that way. But I think it's not correct to think that friends can fix everything, as well as that friends will stay in your life forever. Throughout life you will meet dozens of people and make many friends. But only one or two out of hundreds will be something you may call a "real friend". That's if you are lucky enough to meed someone with similar mindset and values that you have. People you call 'friends' will walk out of your life for different reasons (they may be insignificant or important) and will stay with you for different amounts of time. That's why I think that it's better if you put yourself/your life/feelings first most of the times when it comes to your friends. You can stay in a really good relationship with them even if you don't always put them first or give all of yourself into these relationships. Because each one of us have their own lifes to take care of. Those people who will want to stay with you and will understand you/love you - will stay. And those who don't - won't. Whatever you do for them. It depends on the mindset of the other party. Loving, helping, caring for your friends is great, but if you put them above other important things like yourself, then they will get used to it. And most people won't do the same for you or will try to use your love for their own emotional self-satisfaction. That's just how it is. So I think you just need to do everything in moderation and state values right in life.
What Do You Value The Most In A Friendship?
-
consistency in reciprocity. i hav seen a lot of friendships no matter how close, loyal, loving or honest erode in time because eventualy one of them fail to respond to a call or never call back or text or not replying to a text.
-
@barton im allergic to the word consistency i know u get what i mean..im looking for that consistency in all means whaha
-
@im-a-bae A friend in need is a friend indeed
-
@damncuteguy true indeed
-
@bela hope u reach there... :) eventualy... :P
-
I think in friendship mutual trust and respect are most important. If you cannot fully trust a guy, he/she just cannot be your friend. His/her reliability quotient, his/her honesty and commitment are also very important factors for good friendship.
I make friends with different mindsets of people. i don't have similar friends.
So I value the best in each person. Everyone is good at something. I love them for that something. And I value it :)
-
@naveen067 its a tie for us ..trust and respect is a necessity and a must..
-
@im-a-bae said in What Do You Value The Most In A Friendship?:
What is it that you like about your friend(s)? What makes that bond so special? Something that nobody else will understand or what do you look for in a friendship?
For me, the love that is present. And I feel like because of it, trust, loyalty, etc. follow. Actually, I value everything.
-
@barton almost there u know hehe.actually trust and respect are combo answers..trust from calz,respect from me..
-
@azriel to love!
-
-
Basic qualities I look for are:
- Honesty,
- Trustworthiness,
- Basic understanding of sarcasm (I can barely go two sentences without sarcasm),
- An okay level sense of humor.
Making someone a friend is letting them into your life, letting them see you for who you really are, friends are as close one can come to choosing their own family.
So there has to be certain criteria... -
@im-a-bae
Honesty
Trust
Reliability
Integrity
Respect -
-
-
@im-a-bae
Two that I forgot to mention.Friendly-ness/congeniality
Compatibility -
@bela trust and respect both from calz not only trust. :p
-
This post is beautiful :heart:
Thanks for not being a dramatic bitch @im-a-bae
Love you lol. -
@im-a-bae
In one word... Honesty.
If you can't trust ppl, it's hard to develop anything with them.
Ofc there are more, such as understanding, open-minded, fun, etc. But the honesty outshines everything else. -
@mr-h said in What Do You Value The Most In A Friendship?:
@im-a-bae
In one word... Honesty.
If you can't trust ppl, it's hard to develop anything with them.
Ofc there are more, such as understanding, open-minded, fun, etc. But the honesty outshines everything else.Am i honest?