• @kaviya
    She dumped a boy, got a job, and is doing far more work in college than she bargained for


  • @sky1234

    As much as everyone liked a rewind button that's just an illusion. You will stop wanting a rewind button when you learn to like the present and look forward for the possibilities that the future holds. If you had a rewind button you'd most likely live in the past... But I don't blame you as I feel the same


  • @sky1234 I'm not sure I want to have a rewind button, but I sure as heck could use a pause button. I think we are not who we were anyways. we just forget how we used to be and keep changing over time to the point of pretty much being someone else after sometime. but then, we actually remember a bit about who we were, withou remembering the thing we wanted to change so bad. Life is hard. I want a pause button tho.


  • @sky1234 i can't say it's something you get used to sky, it stabs me in the heart and brain and belly every single fucking day. It has changed my personality a lot. I'm much more solemn and less chirpy now. Their birthdays are fucking hideous for me


  • @Nia-Rox So u lost the love of your life is that the biggest regret in your life


  • @kaviya
    I wouldn’t say I lost him. He was bad for me, I had to get rid of him, but he made me very happy.


  • @sky1234 that is deep, but you know what with them not realizing how you weren't yourself shows that they aren't the one to stay in relationships with when you figure out what the new you is about.


  • @Brazilian-guy well a pause button might sound good now, but later might be a regret because life doesn't stop it keeps going only difference is for you, you've stopped and is now having to play catch up later on.


  • @Lurker
    but what if i actually do want to live in the past? :(


  • @Nia-Rox well I think u did the right thing my friend. It's your life your decision your rules somebody treat u bad they're out of your life


  • @sarah_the_magpie said in I miss my old self:

    @Lurker
    but what if i actually do want to live in the past? :(

    if you wanna live in the past as in... another era, that's ok but I have a feeling most ppl wanna live in the past as in... a time they already lived and can't get over... I speak for myself as I daydream about that everyday


  • @Lurker hey man there's nothing wrong with feeling wistful. The certain knowledge that things are gone and won't be coming back is powerful stuff. That's why so much beautiful heart rending music has come from that place. We all have that shit, you're not alone my friend. Live in your dreams if that's what comforts you. Then it will be even more amazing when something sneaks up on you and lifts you out of it


  • @sky1234 Female alien. Guess i can deal with that...


  • @Scottish said in I miss my old self:

    @Lurker hey man there's nothing wrong with feeling wistful. The certain knowledge that things are gone and won't be coming back is powerful stuff. That's why so much beautiful heart rending music has come from that place. We all have that shit, you're not alone my friend. Live in your dreams if that's what comforts you. Then it will be even more amazing when something sneaks up on you and lifts you out of it

    It can be a problem, tho... Don't get me wrong buddy, I cheerish and keep the memories fresh and warm but they aren't my present and they surely won't help me in the future, so I should try and accept they are the past and they are gone and try to move on, otherwise I'm afraid to be stuck in something that is long gone


  • @Lurker yeah i know. But you'll move on when you're ready and able to. I'm just saying don't beat yourself up about where you are now. It's ok to be fucked up. Jesus, so many of us are. I'm pretty sure every single person i dig on this site is. It's why we all talk and relate to each other. It's a fucking nightmare being a sentient creature ain't it? I've actually had times when I've thought I'd prefer to be brain dead, just to stop the thoughts coming


  • @Nia-Rox all the best things are bad for us Nia, nicotine beats the shit out of lettuce. Alcohol is so much more fun than cous cous. Proof that there isn't a god or if there is he's a fucked up asshole and i want words with him. Nice song choice btw, the beach boys, right?


  • @Scottish

    Won't lie I wished to not feel sometimes, but then I realize that the good times will be boring as well :shrug:


  • @Lurker you need strategies to deal with this shit i find. I have several, all of them are forms of distraction i suppose, well i fucking know! Chemical barriers (alcohol, weed, that's my limit) keeping busy (going to work has so often been my salvation, i dont get to brood) diving into a good book, comfort eating, power walking, just getting fucking stroppy about it (internally) , walking, the best one would be music but then you have ro be careful what you choose, like Russian roulette that!. Thats my way round it, an array of stuff to distract me. I hide from it basically


  • @Scottish

    I kinda go around it the same way as you, but it gets even more lonely as soon as you let yourself think a bit 😅 thanks for the tips


  • @Lurker you will get there brother! And when you do please send me the fucking directions 😁😁😁