Do people fall Love @ First sight ?

[Dirty Dimond]

Do really Love @ first sight works?
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[erikagautney]

[Dirty Dimond]

@erikagautney expected the same.

[erikagautney]

@Dirty-Dimond someone on here called me a cynic the other day lol so just to be crystal clear, that gif was just posted as a joke.

That said, I do think it's true enough, because we tend to overly romanticize the idea of "love at first sight" when whatever role it is that your hormonal drives, your aesthetic preferences, etc play in that initial impression you get from a prospective partner - it doesn't last forever, it's just that, an impression (a momentary, skin-deep and superficial impression at that).

But can that first impression give you an intuition as to whether you'd like to pursue him or her? Sure.

• And if you do decide to go in that direction,
  • can we not also consider all of the time you invest and energies you expend for the sake of that relationship to be a form of love too?
• Does "fall in love" refer to a singular momentous event?
  • Or are you continually falling as you gain a deeper understanding of that person, both their virtues and their vices, their flaws and their graces?
• Are not the actions that you take to make him or her
  • cry with laughter,
  • or feel comforted when they cry,
  • to be a calming touchstone of stability when they lose composure in anger or frustration,
  • to be source of encouragement and inspiration for them to strive and thrive in life,
• also expressions of love?
  • Is love not an ongoing process, a verb you continue to engage in inasmuch as it started out as a noun you felt some type of way about when you first saw them?

And, quite frankly, part of that "deeper understanding" and "love in action" also entails sometimes letting go of that person.

• Again, the idea of "together forever" is often romanticized,
  • but what if after years together this person is no longer happy (whatever the reason may be)?
  • Even a bird in a cage gilded with gold will eventually become a bird without song.
• So do you cling onto them with a deathgrip for fear of losing that noun which you love?
  • Or can we consider it a form of love if, for the sake of their well-being, you let them feel free enough to explore and express their lovesong once more... as they fly out of sight and sound from you?
• And, in the absence of him/her, is this sudden aching pain of overwhelming loneliness welling up deep inside your chest cavity as your heart gets stuck in your throat and a sinking pit forms in your stomach... is that not symptomatic of that same love too?
  • The noun you loved is no longer here, so you can't express verbs of love any longer and all the time and energy doing so seems wasted and for naught.
    • What you're left feeling isn't a new emotion like hate or rage. Perhaps despair or anguish, but seated in and borne out of lost love.
  • And it's not just an emotional feeling, you bodily react from time to time.
    • fluctuating imbalances in your brain
    • Tears.
    • Shortness of breath.
    • Hyperventilation.
    • Cold sweats.
    • Visible shakes.
    • Bodily convulsions as you curl up and cry once you're out of sight from judging eyes.
  • I mean... this is nothing short of psychological and physiological withdrawal symptoms,
    • very much akin to what we see when someone tries to wean themselves off of an addictive substance like heroin.

And yet, all of this is part and parcel of the package called love that many of us come to process at various points in our lives.

• So... is it a noun?
  • Or is it a verb?
• Is it a "on sight" person+place event?
  • Or an ongoing process of understanding in action?
• Is love nothing but pure joy, elation and ecstasy?
  • Or can those ecstatic expressions of physical and emotional intimacy somehow give way to the anguish of heartbreak?

The answer is "all of the above." Love is a fantastically frustrating and frustratingly fantastic phenomenon. The quirks and curious idiosyncrasies of their love for you and your love for them will make you both smile and laugh yourselves to tears. But your love will also eventually, inevitably, invariably lead to tears driven by your heart aching and breaking in painful longing for each other and loneliness when without one another.

TL;DR - love is a brilliantly chaotic and chaotically brilliant hot mess

[TM]

Any form of love to others is self love , we fall in love to enjoy the story but not the character in the story . So we always need to " be" as beings , our selves need the " Drama scenario " to reach multiple goals or achievments , to feel needed is an achievment , to fill the need of ur partner is another achievment and so on ... even sex as a natural act hides a deeper meaning than fullfilling the lust , it is the " I am good enough " feeling in some scenarios or " I am able to make the partner enjoy my body so I am important in this world at least for 1 " ... life is a psychological game people play wearing different masks to hide their vulnurability , cz if they say their intentions clearly , most partners would breakup or even seek revenge for being used or fooled , even the one who put this mask on will feel detached from society afterwards ... . For me from a personal standpoint , I choose to be the veiwer of the full picture to satisfy my ego instead of using an innocent soul and that's an honorable way of " being " in my opinion .

[Dirty Dimond]

@erikagautney from this reply I fig that 4 letter word doesn't give us what it was

[Dirty Dimond]

@The-Mods That's on point and straight-up opinion. @ start it sounded wired but later you concluded with good choose of being "be'

[Untamed101]

Yes ppl fall in love at first sight... And when it breaks then its heart breaking like hell
Been there

[erikagautney]

Nah @Dirty-Dimond I kinda get what @The-Mods were driving at. It only sounds weird if you're not familiar with teachings and philosophies borne out of Dharmic traditions such as Hinduism, Jainism, Buddhism, Zen, Taoism, etc.

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It would be like how if someone from one of the Abrahamic religions like Judaism or Christianity or Islam commented on here and suggested that since the capital G deity embodies perfect love, every expression of human love is a reflection of that. But the desires of the flesh "at first sight" can't compare to the sacred and holy covenant that a marriage represents. Love is patient, love is kind, it doesn't envy, it doesn't boast, it is not proud, etc etc and whatever other attributes that gets listed out in that scripture - I can't recall it all from memory, but you get the general idea.

If you don't come from the same background as they do, then from the outside looking in, it'll sound strange. Framing any and every instance of love with respect to an almighty and all-knowing entity who created you before you were born and knows before you die whether your afterlife will be ecstatic bliss for forever or eternal torment and torture. Couching "love" in between all that baggage sounds super weird for someone who doesn't buy into all of the theology that surrounds it.

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Similarly, according to various eastern religions, every single person is actually the exact same being "behind the scenes" it's just that we all forget that we're all individual expressions of the deity. Effectively, we're all wearing theatrical masks and fully immersed in the role of (insert your name here) as we play out the drama of life.

Couched within that surrounding context, they wrote that "to feel needed", "to fill their need", and "even sex as a natural act" are all various goals of love (explored and expressed and achieved on "the stage that is our lives" so to speak). And since we're all the same entity underneath (again, the idea here is that "we" have fully forgotten that we're divine so that "it" may become fully immersed in the thrill of the drama being played out without being spoiled by knowing how the ending will play out beforehand etc) every form of selfless love is actually "capital S" Self-love.

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Lmao the funny thing is you said that whole schpeel just boiled down to their opinion and the only part you didn't find weird was the sentiment they shared at the very end... but that was the one part which they clearly said is driven by their personal opinion and for the sake of their own ego rather than any of these lofty ideals and theological philosophies of love ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Essentially, what they were conveying at the end there was something along the lines of "I prefer to be among the audience watching you all falling head over heels for each other rather than actually getting involved with any one of you. I'm not a loving participant, I'm an outside observer. I consider it an honor to write ratings and reviews about your onstage performance while I detach myself from the drama and take it all in from afar."

[Sasha257]

If the question was lust at first sight then I think everyone could answer “yes”
Love at first sight on the other hand, occasionally I think it is possible but for me personally it hasn’t happened, I think love needs time to develop.

[Lake Bodom]

with things and ideas yes with people no

[G-A]

@Dirty-Dimond with Judy? Yes. With others? May be 😼

[DaNii]

@Dirty-Dimond Attraction at first sight is possible; love, no.

[Kittypurfect]

love is amazing i fly in it.