Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.

[cjko]

Pick two and why..

[spaceboy]

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[cjko]

@spacegirl said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

Definitely physical chemistry. Without it, relationships would be too boring. About the second one, it's a difficult choice between the lifestyle and emotional compatibles.. And I think emotional is more important, as if both of partners are on the same wave, they could handle with other things, by switching off all other incompatibilities.

Thanks for sharing your opinion.. well, in my view, it's not always the physical chemistry that matters. If there's love involved, I think it will fall last in the list.

[spaceboy]

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[pe7erpark3r]

I definitely think physical chemistry is immensely important, because it does, without fail, influence emotional compatibility. At least with a partner you're actually physically going to be with. So I guess I'd make the same choices as @spacegirl since i think those two are the ones that make relationships actually work out.

[cjko]

@spacegirl said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

@cjko Well all of this things, that you mention in the topic relates to love in some way. In other words, this things a some kind of building blocks for the relationships. And it is a responsibility of both of partners too keep the fire in house. (The fire can be read here as physical chemistry) Everything is flows from one to another. And if one of them, don't want to save the fire? Is it love after all?

Well,that's how you and @petrapark3r perceive about physical chemistry and how important it is, which is different in my views also. Why would one just base "fire" on that field? We all have different languages of love. It doesn't always have to be like what you think.

[pe7erpark3r]

@cjko said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

@spacegirl said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

@cjko Well all of this things, that you mention in the topic relates to love in some way. In other words, this things a some kind of building blocks for the relationships. And it is a responsibility of both of partners too keep the fire in house. (The fire can be read here as physical chemistry) Everything is flows from one to another. And if one of them, don't want to save the fire? Is it love after all?

Well,that's how you and @petrapark3r perceive about physical chemistry and how important it is, which is different in my views also. Why would one just base "fire" on that field? We all have different languages of love. It doesn't always have to be like what you think.

In germany we say "to be able to smell each other well". It means to like each other. But it obviously comes from actually liking each others scent. Trust me, it is hard to live with someone, and to really really like them, if you don't like their smell. Why would you even believe that you're "made for each other" if you don't fit together in that sense too?

[spaceboy]

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[cjko]

@petrapark3r that's true.. but aren't you aware that there are people who fell in love more if they are emotionally and intellectually compatible? Like you don't have to say something anymore, they will just know what's wrong through their intuition because they're deeply connected

[pe7erpark3r]

@cjko said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

@petrapark3r that's true.. but aren't you aware that there are people who fell in love more if they are emotionally and intellectually compatible? Like you don't have to say something anymore, they will just know what's wrong through their intuition because they're deeply connected

Well that kind of thing sounds destined to be a really deep friendship. I mean it might work as a marriage, maybe you could habituate to the other's smell. But I wouldn't bet on it.

[spaceboy]

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[cjko]

@petrapark3r well, that's your philosophical views about this topic and I agree to disagree.We are different , we have diverse cultures, belief, upbringing and opinions. Thanks for sharing your choices though

[cjko]

@spacegirl haven't you read the other choices?

[pe7erpark3r]

@cjko said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

@petrapark3r well, that's your philosophical views about this topic and I agree to disagree.We are different , we have diverse cultures, belief, upbringing and opinions. Thanks for sharing your choices though

I didn't say it was impossible... But tell me, do you have any experience supporting your view? Have you been together with someone with whom you were not physically compatible (who's smell you didn't like) ?

[spaceboy]

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[spaceboy]

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[cjko]

@petrapark3r said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

@cjko said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

@petrapark3r well, that's your philosophical views about this topic and I agree to disagree.We are different , we have diverse cultures, belief, upbringing and opinions. Thanks for sharing your choices though

I didn't say it was impossible... But tell me, do you have any experience supporting your view? Have you been together with someone with whom you were not physically compatible (who's smell you didn't like) ?

Nope. I haven't.. but having different emotional and intellectual compatibility make the rs impossible to withstand. Didn't meet halfway, one is always one leap downward to the other.

[pe7erpark3r]

@spacegirl said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

@cjko I read all of them. And I come to the conclusion that all of we are confused in words trying to talk about the same thing.

Yeah, maybe we have to define em. So how about the following proposal:

• physical chemistry: yes = you like each other's smell, no = you hate each other's smell
• lifestyle compatibility: yes = you're rich, she's rich, you like tennis, she likes tennis
• emotional compatibility: yes = you understand each other emotionally, or at least your feelings somehow align, no = you don't get the other's emotion
• intellectual compatiblity: yes = you understand each other on an intellectual level, you share insights and maybe viewpoints, no = you don't properly understand each other on an intellectual level, it is hard to share your insights with the other

[pe7erpark3r]

@spacegirl said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

@petrapark3r said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

In germany we say "to be able to smell each other well".

"Du riechst so gut" ?

That is a correct german phrase that translates to: "You smell so good"

[cjko]

@petrapark3r said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

@spacegirl said in Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.:

@cjko I read all of them. And I come to the conclusion that all of we are confused in words trying to talk about the same thing.

Yeah, maybe we have to define em. So how about the following proposal:

• physical chemistry: yes = you like each other's smell, no = you hate each other's smell
• lifestyle compatibility: yes = you're rich, she's rich, you like tennis, she likes tennis
• emotional compatibility: yes = you understand each other emotionally, or at least your feelings somehow align, no = you don't get the other's emotion
• intellectual compatiblity: yes = you understand each other on an intellectual level, you share insights and maybe viewpoints, no = you don't properly understand each other on an intellectual level, it is hard to share your insights with the other

This is exactly what I mean