@girlTx09 hii
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Great name and great idea Sir devil. What would you do if you need more physical touch from your boyfriend, have mentioned it plenty of times, but still end most days just wanting a hug? Is liking to be touched a lot too needy? To put in perspective he puts off sex to maybe once a week twice if I'm lucky and usually rejects a deeper kiss if I'm trying. He hasn't attempted to reaaaaly kiss me in months. When sex does happen it's fine but seems almost rushed or 'acted out' like just saying what he thinks I want to hear so he can just get on with watching youtube videos and smoking weed. Thoughts??
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@iwant2believe I'm no sir devil but I'm just gonna say my thought if that's cool with you. First of all, to answer your question. No, liking to be touched a lot is not being too needy. You're just being human. As being human comes with the need of physiological touch according to Abraham Maslow's "Hierarchy of Needs". Have you tried talking to him regarding this? Maybe he's got some problems.
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@iwant2believe @ioannes I agree with Ioannes. Wanting a physical touch is human. There might be two reasons for your boyfriend's behavior. One: He is having an issue with his body, which limits his libido. Two: He has grown tired of the relationship. He may have lost the passion he once had with the relationship.
You must ask him about it. Both the reasons are equally plausible and they can be found out only by talking about it. If he doesn't respond, just straight up ask him, if he loves you anymore. The way he answers would give you some insight.
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@sir-devil "I hope that whatever the outcome, you would do fine." you don't sound like a devil at all lol
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@ioannes let us say, I am a righteous demon. A demon who has now accepted himself and changed his character.
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okay, guys. Today, I would be online all day....
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@sir-devil hey I need help
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@heretohelp what do you need help with?
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@sir-devil Relationship advice
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@heretohelp not my expertise but let me help with what I can
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@sir-devil thanks a lot
I am new here
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@heretohelp can i join in?
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@heretohelp @Sir-Devil We suggest you all to have the discussion on the posts so that other users can also benefit based on the expert advise of Sir Devil.
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@talkwithstranger If he is okay with it...
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okay, I would be going offline now....
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@sir-devil @HereToHelp told me and i gave him my advice in private chat
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@alwaysstranger what was the advice? Tell us everything. We want to know.
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@sarah he didn't want it to go public. It's just regular relationship drama and nothing special
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@ioannes Love the Hierarchy of needs! Ahaha I used to throw that idea around all the time. Usually when a person is feeling bad I say but have you slept, eaten lately, and fulfilled every other need? Then if the problem persists at least it's easier to rule out those possibilities 😊 thanks
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@sir-devil Thank you for detailed response! He's 28, libido seems fine. Definitely already asked and brought this up before. Always responds with the I love you very much. He does seem to have anxiety, was a soldier for many years, like a high stress seems unable to relax. I'm thinking he's just not one of those people who have reached the depths of romance or connection. Spiritual journey I guess. It's like dating someone who dates the same way as in high school? But he's not inexperienced at all. Has a child. Hope that makes sense. Has anyone else on here been or heard of people like this??