@waywardmarbles Man! It sounds like this guy really has it bad for you. Shy or not, life is short, and you might be surprised by yourself. And how you will feel afterwards. You HAVE to tell him you like him. He seems very shy as well. Guys are not upfront about feelings, my boyfriend is 28, TWENTY EIGHT and how did we get together? He asked a coworker to 'talk to me for him' 😂 It's not wierd to date your friends exes, he probably just did to distract himself from thinking of you. Whether the feelings are still there, you really need to take action, soon. No more waiting! That's 6 months of sitting in class wondering what could be, while you could've been planning your weekends with him. It seems your social circle is pretty close, and no hard feelings anywhere. BUT my advice to you hun, would be to talk to him without friends around. It's the internet age, FB message him, text him. Don't tell him you like him in a message though. Say you're very interested in hanging out, just with him, you are smart I'm sure you can come up with something. He writes songs? Asking a guy to teach you a few chords on guitar at his house works wonders. Or whatever he plays 😏 I understand wanting him to make the first move, but sorry hun women mature wayyyyy much faster than men. They are so much more scared of rejection than you, therefore will not risk it. Why get his hopes ruined forever when he could admire you from a distance! Is his point of view. But that's not real life. Bridge the gap, open the door between you two. meet him alone, even if it's awkward to hang out it doesn't matter. Even if he tries to play it cool. he might lay in bed that night thinking 'what is this' I can't believe she wanted to get to know me better'. It gets the wheels churning

Sir Devil what is your problem of the day, or current battle, if you had to pick one?

a few friends and myself have had some interesting encounters. Not all as obvious as others. Has anyone had an experience that leads them to believe or be curious in extraterrestrials?

@sir-devil what would you suggest in creating a career? Never really mattered to me until the last few years. Now really feel like I need some sort of short term goals, and wondering how I could go so long without them? Honestly have always lived in the moment, even through stressful times. Really can be happy doing anything anywhere, never really minded where I was in life and don't compare myself to others enough, to feel the drive to be labeled 'successful'. So far all my jobs have been customer service, and mostly physical labor, all just to pay bills of course. I've looked this up online and find really cheesy stuff, would love some real world opinions

a few friends and myself have had some interesting encounters. Not all as obvious as others. Has anyone had an experience that leads them to believe or be curious in extraterrestrials?

@sir-devil hahaha well you sound like a very well-balanced person then. Do you have pets?

@waywardmarbles And while he may be disapointed because you aren't letting you know you're interested, duh that's becayse he likes you, and you know it. Don't play it cool and pretend to not care, you gotta be true to yourself. The coolest people I ever met always show they care. Forgive yourself and move past it becayse once you show ANY interest he's going to forget about all that. Excited for the future happiness of you two 😊

@waywardmarbles Man! It sounds like this guy really has it bad for you. Shy or not, life is short, and you might be surprised by yourself. And how you will feel afterwards. You HAVE to tell him you like him. He seems very shy as well. Guys are not upfront about feelings, my boyfriend is 28, TWENTY EIGHT and how did we get together? He asked a coworker to 'talk to me for him' 😂 It's not wierd to date your friends exes, he probably just did to distract himself from thinking of you. Whether the feelings are still there, you really need to take action, soon. No more waiting! That's 6 months of sitting in class wondering what could be, while you could've been planning your weekends with him. It seems your social circle is pretty close, and no hard feelings anywhere. BUT my advice to you hun, would be to talk to him without friends around. It's the internet age, FB message him, text him. Don't tell him you like him in a message though. Say you're very interested in hanging out, just with him, you are smart I'm sure you can come up with something. He writes songs? Asking a guy to teach you a few chords on guitar at his house works wonders. Or whatever he plays 😏 I understand wanting him to make the first move, but sorry hun women mature wayyyyy much faster than men. They are so much more scared of rejection than you, therefore will not risk it. Why get his hopes ruined forever when he could admire you from a distance! Is his point of view. But that's not real life. Bridge the gap, open the door between you two. meet him alone, even if it's awkward to hang out it doesn't matter. Even if he tries to play it cool. he might lay in bed that night thinking 'what is this' I can't believe she wanted to get to know me better'. It gets the wheels churning

@waywardmarbles What's your annoying love life? Tell the truth and nothing but. I think there's been some pretty pathetic, downright embarrassing, disrespectful moments in my relationships that would even be sad to admit. But that's what this is for, get it off your chest ☀️

Sir Devil what is your problem of the day, or current battle, if you had to pick one?

@sir-devil Thank you for detailed response! He's 28, libido seems fine. Definitely already asked and brought this up before. Always responds with the I love you very much. He does seem to have anxiety, was a soldier for many years, like a high stress seems unable to relax. I'm thinking he's just not one of those people who have reached the depths of romance or connection. Spiritual journey I guess. It's like dating someone who dates the same way as in high school? But he's not inexperienced at all. Has a child. Hope that makes sense. Has anyone else on here been or heard of people like this??

@ioannes Love the Hierarchy of needs! Ahaha I used to throw that idea around all the time. Usually when a person is feeling bad I say but have you slept, eaten lately, and fulfilled every other need? Then if the problem persists at least it's easier to rule out those possibilities 😊 thanks

Great name and great idea Sir devil. What would you do if you need more physical touch from your boyfriend, have mentioned it plenty of times, but still end most days just wanting a hug? Is liking to be touched a lot too needy? To put in perspective he puts off sex to maybe once a week twice if I'm lucky and usually rejects a deeper kiss if I'm trying. He hasn't attempted to reaaaaly kiss me in months. When sex does happen it's fine but seems almost rushed or 'acted out' like just saying what he thinks I want to hear so he can just get on with watching youtube videos and smoking weed. Thoughts??