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    There's this guy from school who suddenly texted me out of nowhere saying hey! Big fan here.I started having a conversation with him and we instantly clicked. We started texting more late nights and I got attached. In the beginning he was very sweet to me and all. He would send me his selfies with gm and gn texts. Everyday he would update me about his life. We would send heart emoticons to each other. After few days he confessed to me he likes me but I friendzoned him. But sometimes he would flirt with me saying I feel like giving you a hug from behind.He would send me baby stickers sometimes. One day I told him its making me uncomfortable, he said he wont send it from now. He did not send it then. In between we had a fight but then I sorted it out. After that he started telling me he is busy again and again.Whenever we would text about about wwe or football because I like it. He tells me you are so awesome, Let's marry. Then tells me he is kidding. Then he asked me should he propose I told him I dont feel the same way. Recently he asked me If I am a virgin. I got mad at him confronted saying this was disrespectful he told me sorry and deleted the text and I blocked him on instagram. He whatsapped me saying directly blocked? thought you were mature enough and blocked me there.Now I've rekindled things with him because I was attached . He told me even if we dont we are still so good friends. I told him you will always be special even if we dont talk. Few days he texted me but now he is ignoring me.It feels like he is ghosting me now. Should I block him again? Now I've started to feel guilty for entertaining his texts.


  • I read this same post before but can't remember if it was the same user ๐Ÿ™„


  • @heycutie It's simple really, he wants one thing from you that almost every guy who befriends a girl wants from them. Sex or a relationship. If only sex, DO NOT give it to him. Once you do that he will most likely move on while you will be more attracted to him than ever before. If you want to be with him and he wants to be with you. Than start a relationship with him and see if he's committed to you before you have sex with him. Most guys usually do not want to be friends with girls. Do not take it the wrong. It's not that you're not worthy of friendship or other girls aren't. It's just that most guys don't have anything in common with girls. So most common reason guys hangout with girls is because of the sexual attraction they have towards them. Younger men don't realize this because it's unconscious. If he has now ghosted you, it's because he realized he has no chance of having an intimacy or a relationship with you. Please do not waste his time by entertaining to/with him the idea of being together if that's not your intention. Good luck ๐Ÿคž girl.

  • Banned

    @cooky9 he texted me today asking how I am...


  • @heycutie Listen girl. First of all you know this dude better than anyone else on the internet and second of all you will be the one who has to live with the consequences of your decision. So know that you will alone be responsible for your decision. All that said, I will give you my opinion, but I have to make a DISCLAIMER first. I have never had a relationship before, the advice I'm giving you is based on common sense and my opinion.

    Look from what you wrote here, it seems like you have a genuine friendship or connection with him. I could never ask you to loose or jeopardize that. But it seems like he doesn't see this relationship as a friendship only, but more than that. I hope for your sake that you have other friends in case this friendship doesn't last.

    Ask yourself what is it that you want from this relationship. Really ask yourself that and ponder ๐Ÿค” for a while. Do you want this friendship to continue as one or are you open to more than that. The decision is all yours, not his, not mine, nor anyone else on the internet. Whatever your decision is, communicate them very clearly and have boundaries that you can't let anyone, including your family cross. If he respects those boundaries of yours, than you may have him in your life, if that is what you wish. It seems like he has already crossed those boundaries few times, but also apologized and you have forgiven him which is kind of you. But there should be a limit to how many times you let people cross you. If they keep crossing you, than I don't think they deserve you and thus you should cut the relationship in my opinion.

    Going back to your friend and why he ghosted you. If I had to guess the reason behind him ghosting you. I would say that he did it for your attention. Perhaps he was thinking that if he acted busy and pretended to have a life you would find him attractive and thus would want to have relationship with him beyond just friendship or maybe simply he was low-key mad at you for blocking him. But obviously as you are well aware of, friendship is not just one-way street, but two-way street.

    Maybe I'm completely wrong about him and he's actually busy turning his life around and working on himself. Even than, he should have at least a time of his day to say hi and chat for a bit. A friend would never let you hanging like that. If he wants to be a true friend, he should step up his game. If he doesn't want that, maybe you should reconsider your friendship with him.

    Sorry for the long post, hope you got through it all. I also hope your relationship with him, whatever it may be satisfies you both now and in the long term. ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Now I have to sleep ๐Ÿ’ค๐Ÿ˜ด Goodnight โ˜บ๏ธ

  • Banned

    @cooky9 yes I get it...you words are true. Right now I do want to have a relationship with him but because ghosted me for few days and came back I see this as a red flag. I had posted a picture 1 week back and he replied to it by saying Hot. I again found it a bit weird