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Is it disrespectful to like other girls sexy/halfnaked photos on instagram when in a relationship?
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I totally get you but we aren't all the same... My ex would have alot of male friends and she would go out with them pretty often (we had a LDR) even tho I hated it, on the other hand, I could go out with my female friends and such and she would be totally fine with it. It's just about how ppl are, now the difference is if it really bothered me, she would have stopped it
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@Scottish i know, i feel like it's definitely going to make or break us. Thank you that's really kind of you
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@Lurker yeah i completely get you, i think the main issue with all of it is obviously my insecurity but it's that he's showing these other girls more attention than me? i am/would be more than happy for him to go and hang out with female friends etc. as long as i knew that he was all for me, if that makes sense. But he doesn't give me safety in that which is why it's becoming such a big issue
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You'll get there, it may be a long and painful road (It's one I'm walking down myself right now) but there is light at the end of the tunnel. We've both trodden this path before and know it to be true even if the here and now is a massive kick in the nuts.
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Yea my boyfriend just broke up with me so anybody single?
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Gl with this tho, let us know how it went if u feel like it!
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@Lurker i will do, i'm seeing him for the last time this weekend before he leaves so will try and have a conversation about it some day this weekend
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Good luck and i hope it's not too painful for you. Let me know how it goes
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sorry me again lol, it's getting worse because every girl is posting their halloween pictures ahah.
Just another point that is bothering me is that if i was to post a picture similar to any of these girls, my boyfriend would probably be fuming. So i really don't understand the double standard?
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Oh honey it's really eating you up isn't it? That's exactly it, double standards. That's all the explanation there is. He should show you more respect, i don't know why he wouldn't do that other than you are letting him away with it. There's no easy solution for you is there? All you can do is get it off your chest x
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sorry me again lol, it's getting worse because every girl is posting their halloween pictures ahah.
Just another point that is bothering me is that if i was to post a picture similar to any of these girls, my boyfriend would probably be fuming. So i really don't understand the double standard?
Maybe you should do it, so that he has a taste of his own venom.
As I said earlier, everyone acts and feels in a different way but if he isn't ok if you do the same he does, then he's just being an hipocrite :/ -
@Scottish @Lurker it's honestly affecting me so much, plus (although i haven't noticed anything yet) i've just started new medication that's most likely gonna make me put on a bunch of weight too so it's all just adding up. I'm gonna try and talk to him about it.
I am really tempted to, just to show him how much of a double standard it is but i just think it's unfair how i'd have to go to that length you know?
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Yep, be true to yourself and respect yourself, you'd only feel you had demeaned and devalued yourself if you go tit for tat. Talking is the way forward. Just be prepared for frustration. Do you have a name?
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It is indeed unfair, especially for urself. I speak for myself, I'd feel guilty if I exposed myself like that if i were in a relationship :shrug:
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@Scottish it's so frustrating because i know a lot of it is just a personal thing, which i need to work on and am trying to work on. But it's also to do with him as well. It just breaks my heart because of the whole "if you can't love yourself, how can you love someone else" and it always makes me feel like i shouldn't be in a relationship but i just want to be happy you know?
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yeah its pretty disrespectful. it would be one thing if tou just followed someone but looking for sexy or nude pics is sorta whack
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@Cierra-Warnock yo ... what the fuck....
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Hey lighten up on yourself. Has he brainwashed you into thinking this is YOUR issue and therfore needs to be resolved by you GETTING OVER YOURSELF? Sounds a little like that to me. But that's bullshit, you have every right to find it unacceptable. Demonstrably by people's comments on here it clearly is unacceptable to most people, it's not you being needy or smothering. So it boils down to this, there are 3 possible outcomes. 1. He changes his behaviour, happy days. 2. The status quo is maintained which means you will continue to (quite fucking rightly) feel hurt and upset. 3. You accept that he is unwilling to modify his actions so you call things off and get on with your life. That will also hurt and upset you but you can begin to heal and take heart from taking back control of your situation and future. You will also be in a position to go ahead when someone shows up who wants to treat you with respect
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@Scottish no honestly i've just struggled with some toxic relationships before so my mindset is completely jumbled. I always feel as if things are my fault, not going into it but i have a bunch of other issues that are all thrown into this that make it worse.
I semi addressed the insecurity issue and he sent me a message back explaining his feelings for me and trying to reassure me. I've written a long message about the instagram thing, the disrespectfulness and other things. Will send it in the morning now because he's gone to sleep and i'll have a bit of a clearer head by then.
I really do just struggle with relationships, not even just romantically because of mental health, trust issues etc. So honestly hearing all of your opinions and kind guiding words has helped so so much
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