@Lizbeth-Gomez-0 There is a time and place for everything, but why do you prefer such place? you want to dance as crazy while drunk or something? 😁
Be sensible..
How do you deal with difficult people?
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@INSANE-INSIDE that's the only way to shut the annoying people.hahaha
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Here is my solution for how to deal with difficult people: just let your anger simmer --or pretend everything's cool like Jesus would've-- until it all comes to a head months or years later and you unexpectedly perform the Joker Pencil Trick on him / her, at which point you can say to the rozzers, "Hey look, man, I behaved in a reasonable manner and kept it together as long as I could".
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@Moby_DICK Maybe you should say it to my coworkers?
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Don’t “deal” with them. If they’re a pain in your ass just remove them from your life sometimes that means hanging out with a new circle of friends and sometimes it means beating someone down. Either one of those have always worked well for me
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Try to avoid them as much as possible but when you do run into them be polite and treat them with respect. Good luck!
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You CANT avoid difficult people because they seek out situations that can provoke a reaction.
Also, since its usually their problem, why should you be bothered by it?
Think about it this way: they will go home and it will have ruined their day, but you can go home and say, I met this loser today and still have a good night with your family
Its usually issues with self-control, past anger from helplessness, and/or past resentment, so keep in mind its a problem stemming from another problem,
which problems usually do, (so have an air of sympathy for them and their situation).
Therefore, I would advise you not to argue or call them names, because not only will this make the situation worse, but it makes you a nicer person if you dont and consider what actually makes them like this.
They may not even realise they are actually angry or difficult so keep your voice calm, try to help as much as possible, helpfulnes will make a difference, even if you know you are only pretending to be helpful, its the illusion that will help.
Listen to what they are saying, their concerns, even their shouting, but dont take any serious threat to your safety (if you feel really threatened, get help).
Try not to say early on, stop shouting or youre being unreasonable, because this draws attention to their flaws and at that point can make them worse, and dont say you are being always say you seem, being is an aggressive and absolute word, seem is a possibility and explains you may be misunderstanding their attitude and they may calm down.
But maybe say, youre going to have to be patient with me here because no one wants to think they are not patient and they want YOU to be the unreasonable one
Dont be sympathetic when they get really bad, because this only fuels their victimization of themselves and gives them full permission to be acting this way.
Say youre scaring me, so can you please stop no one wants to be scaring everyone, that feels horrible, and I cant help you when you are shouting at me (obviously as long as they ARE shouting)
Try not to be repetitive, because it seems like you are not listening not taking what they are saying seriously and not trying to actually help them
Being reasonable is a must, because that was one of my worst problems: people who you just cant reason with. I would see red when people did that, so you can actually help them and you by being as reasonable as you can until they get really bad.
They may feel cornered, as if they have no other option, so try to give more options, but if thats not possible call someone higher than you, not only does it seem you are doing something to help but it puts the duty on the higher person, not nice but makes your life easier.
Dont argue back it IS what they want, and youll notice if youre always calm they actually get angrier, because they want you to react so badly so it can then be a full blown thing to get their anger out and YOUR fault.
If they seemed reasonable, and then got angry, it could just be a misunderstanding so go over what you said, find what the problem is and why it cant be fixed, and be sure to be as helpful as you can
You cant fix them and they will probably be like that until THEY see their own difficulty themselves and admit they have a problem and decide to change it. All you can do is try to make sure it doesnt hurt you.
They are their own responsibility and their familys responsibility to deal with and dont let them drag you down.
Be courteous and succinct. Do not linger around them. Do not fight back (as this will only egg them on to be more critical or nasty). Take the high road and spend little time around them (except when they are not being so difficult).
If its a continuous problem and too much to take on board. Best to leave them alone. be civil. If it is a friend, colleague, boyfriend and family. They will be clarified problematic individual with anxious and anger issues they need to address to someone who are more trained professional health carers who will assist them with their needs. In other case they need to rectify the problem themselves. If it is client and profession their is no need. Pay pack money in bank account.
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@PeaCOCK-chu That's how you deal with the difficult people - you upvote their posts! Great strategy, go on, Moby!
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@PeaCOCK-chu Please, stop! I could be simple, I could be!
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@Redthreat :smirk:
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@Redthreat give them food with poison
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@PeaCOCK-chu They are normal people. They, who should give me the food with poison or just coca-cola and big mac, i dont care
