Why do you care for others?

[Kaho]

@Karina-Kara
Actually I only care for myself .. But my mind behaves weirdly if I think about other person.. N I put myself in his/her shoes (I don't wanna but my mind ) and as I told before I only care for myself

[Indrid Cold]

@Wolfie_11 said in Why do you care for others?:

You develop Empathy when you see someone suffering the way you have and hence, you naturally develop a sense of caring towards them.

@Wolfie_11 said in Why do you care for others?:

We are nothing but judgemental emotional beings who are ready to believe someone as we see fit to or based on what we are being shown.

I agree, on the whole. But I think the modern world, in the past few decades, has got special circumstances. I think sheer conceit and mass delusion has bled into the subconscious and collective unconscious of a lot of people. I think people look at, say, the homeless and people 'just getting by' and the automatic thought-process is not, "I should help those guys", but, "Why haven't they taken a degree studying design consultancy, or management consultancy, or logo-designing, after all, the jobs are very easy, and plentiful". Well, they aren't really, are they? It's no one's fault, but that doesn't change the fact that it's conceit, and finessed peer pressure baloney, and look how fragile our politics and our economies are.

(And obviously this is going off-topic, as I don't think it's the type of soul-searching @Karina-Kara is doing).

[Wolfie_11]

@Indrid-Cold
On second thought, I concur with your observation of the modern world and the thoughts that people have today. And as you said, its not really anyone’s fault but listening to various views and counter-views on a subject via the widespread media is definitely playing its part and we’re losing a touch of caring attitude and acquring the one of pity.
I’m still an Old-Schooler though.

P.S.- You never know what that woman is searching for through her posts. She’s a Deltaruner, with heightened teenaged phases of anxiety and inquisitiveness.

[Alte]

@Wolfie_11 Ever thought what causes some to be oldschool? Cant figure it out cuz i mean we all grow up in similar society.

[Wolfie_11]

@Alte
Our personal behaviours? Some are readily adaptable to changes whereas some like to stick to their old surroundings (set-ups). Also, Old-School in here was referred to as being one with astute morales, unlike the modern world people.

[Alte]

@Wolfie_11 Makes sense. So that base of oldschool is in the childhood.

[Wolfie_11]

@Alte
You can say so. For instance, if someone grows in a nudist family and has been taught to not fear exposing themselves then s/he is better accustomed to wander naked on beaches than the ones who have grown up in conservative environment. And by the standards of modern world, the conservative person will be known as old-school.

[Bela Hella]

@Karina-Kara Not a relevant answer hehe.. I know myself as demure type but I care a lot and my heart is to be blame for this: Heart main purpose is to pump blood not to care lol

[pe7erpark3r]

It's in our nature to care for others. Really is. If you don't care for at least some people it means something is wrong with you. You might be a sociopath then.

But a sociopath can still care for others, albeit in a non emotional way. I for example care for the poor in this world, but since I don't know all the poor, there is not much emotion there. But I still want them to be better off, I'd still like to help them. And a sociopath can do that too I believe.

But back to the point: why care? Caring is what makes us special. Let's take take a table for example. A table in and of itself has no meaning. But for us it does, we, as conscious entities give it it's meaning, because we use it for a purpose. If there is nothing conscious around, nothing has a meaning, because anything can only ever have a meaning toward something conscious (even if that happens to be a sociopath). Without us it's all empty, all void, all meaningless.

But we can give meaning to more than just tables. We can give meaning to our interactions, to our communities, to our friendships. And the more we put in, the more we suffer for it (not because of it... for it, as in meaningful suffering), the more meaning it acquires. So why do we care?

Because that is who we are.

And you can develop your ability to care for others, or you can let it wither away. But for you to be able to develop it, you have to get close, you have to let others get close. You need to enter deeply into relationships, and that is scary.

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@Karina-Kara
People care to feel good.
Making someone feel better gives you quite a good feeling.

Its not a direct objective but rather what happens so people keep doing it. Especially with negative feelings as the feeling of joy and sorrow combined feels good