@canttouchthis Yep I'm with you on that too. I've had girls disconnect on or get rude with me even when I have been feeling playful because I've not been "forward" enough. I like to connect with somebody first, and I'm not ashamed to say it. If that leads to more, great.
The best random chat experience I ever had which include sexual goings-on (it must be a couple of years ago now) took us both by surprise. I'll always remember it fondly. We chatted for almost an hour, connecting and getting to know each other really hitting it off before we had online sex. It just sorta happened and felt natural. Now, I've often found that peeps disconnect once they've got their fix, which I find shallow and annoying but hey that's people, only she didn't. I think she was expecting me to do the same. But we stayed just chatting about normal stuff for another hour before we went at it again. After that we chatted for a further FOUR hours without any more sex - over six hours connected in total - and it was GREAT. Rare, deep, honest soulful talk. Far more preferable and rewarding than a meaningless throwaway experience. I mean, that's why there is porn, right?