@OliveOlivia said in What do you think makes a true friend?:
@petrapark3r Defining a true friend is hard. There can be multiple things that people expect from a 'true' friend, but as humans, we make errors. Does making a mistake deem someone as an untrue friend?
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Of course not... a friend asks for forgivesness and forgives...
I think in order for anyone to be a true friend, they have to be true to themselves. They have to be as loyal to their friends as they are to themselves. Just as honest, trustworthy, all that jelly.
Agreed.
I think this is important because to me, a true friend, means that you know them and who they are as a person, not just who they present themselves to be. Some friends are very honest, trust worthy, and all the other things you would want in a friend, yet you still might not really know who they are a person.
I'm not sure I understand :thinking_face:
This is expected most of the time. No one ever really shows their true colors, they just show the part they want everyone else to see, but alone, they are different.
Lets take an easy example, the "N" word, it is in a lot of music and is used commonly amongst many people now. It is said that if youre not black then you cant say it, yet so many other people still crave to say it, so they do. They say it to themselves, maybe even to their friends, or just behind closed doors, but yet if theyre not black, chances are they wont say it infront of another black person.
This makes sense, they wont say it out of caution, they don't know how the person will react or they don't want to offend. However, in that situation, I wouldn't think that person is true. Not to themselves or the people they are around, cause they are hiding the kind of person they really are.
You are right. Only if you are the same person in front of one group, as you are in front of another (apart from some social conventions of course that vary with the occasion) and the same person when you talk to yourself in your head, only then are you real and true.
And no matter how hard someone tries, if they are not true to themselves when noone notices, they will also not be able to be true to themselves when they are around you. So yeah. I feel you...
This might be a bad example, I just had a discussion with my friend about this the other day so it was the first one that popped into my head, but my point is, I think I only consider someone a true friend if they can be true to themselves as they are alone than they are with me and others.