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If two people are liking each other or so called special but not in a relationship is it a pre requisite that you have to be open,honest and loyal??
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@mr-h thats why i said that it depends on people. some people prefer to be open. some dont. ultimately its their choice. there is no point in forcing one to respect your preference.
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@rosestar yep rose I Am totally okay..I am not the person involved in here actually no one just this random stuff you know..
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Just don't understand how you (generally speaking) can like someone and not be open with them. That's all i'm trying to say :sweat_smile:
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@mr-h yep I understand coz if someone likes you he/she must be aware that you must be the apple of the eye lol..and atleast the very 1st priority for communication purposes..
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@mr-h open, honest and loyal. these are powerful words mate. you say something personal to them and when things go south they use it against you. and i hate the drama which comes after a delayed sms response or failure to take calls in time. are you avoiding me, do you hate me, oh please!
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Exacly! :clap:
I get what you mean and I respect it. I, on the other hand, rather try with everything I got even If i end up hurt. At least I know I've tried my best to make it work. There's no "in betweens" with me.
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@mr-h I understand. But remember, by "trying everything" to make it work, you are shifting the responsibility to that person. Thats a lot of stress mate.
@Bela-Hella Haha, apple of the eye, first priority, thats just childish. mature people should always give each other the space to breath.
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@barton said in If two people are liking each other or so called special but not in a relationship is it a pre requisite that you have to be open,honest and loyal??:
you shifting the responsibility to that person.
Just cuz I act the way I do, doesn't mean the other part has to. It's up to others act however they please. I just know for a fact, if I had feelings for someone and that someone had feelings for me and we would agree we don't want a relationship rn, I wouldn't be cheating on her or keeping stuff to myself. I would do as i always do when i'm in love! If the other person doesn't wanna be that way, it's up to me to accept it and live with it or not. Just cuz I wanna live at 80, doesn't mean i'll force others to live at 80 as well.
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@mr-h so what do you expect that person should do when you are acting the way you do?
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@barton being a priority is not childish..and even mature people have childish ways in them.. Priority doesnt comes with space or no space for each other but respect I guess not space..
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@bela-hella what do you mean by respect ?
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@barton A mutual understanding in every pros and cons is a total respect and it doesnt work on space.. you can adjust and make time it may not be as everyday but i dont understand what is space purpose is for..
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@barton said in If two people are liking each other or so called special but not in a relationship is it a pre requisite that you have to be open,honest and loyal??:
@mr-h so what do you expect that person should do when you are acting the way you do?
If my gf is cheering for man united, do I feel obliged to cheer for them as well? No, cuz I have personality.
I don't expect them to do anything, I expect them to be themselves the same way I am myself ;) -
@mr-h said in If two people are liking each other or so called special but not in a relationship is it a pre requisite that you have to be open,honest and loyal??:
I expect them to be themselves the same way I am myself
You are putting them in a compromising position where they will be forced to chose an outcome which is ultimately desirable to you. So you want them to embrace your personality by ditching theirs. Thats called emotional blackmailing mate.
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@bela-hella the spaces purpose is to leave room enough for their individual growth. a room for their own.
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If they bend to my personality, it means they have a weak personality.
I've been in 2 somewhat long term relationships and I could be myself while the other person could be as well.
If the other person feels complied to act differently cuz of your own personality, how am I the one being the one blackmail them? Should I stop being myself just cuz they can't be themselves? Makes no sense to me. -
@barton my title post is liking.. What is liking? For me its ultimate purpose is "to be with" that person.. If u like a person do u need a space? I think not! Coz you will be more excite to be with that person than being apart..
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@bela-hella So long as you are open and honest to the person that you are in a relationship with , what difference does the rest of the world make. When you look outside of the relationship you start to notice opinion's, judgement and various other types of concern.
The bottom line of it is, if you and your partner are happy, who gives a dam? It's nobody else's place to made comment. -
@shaun-durwin I am not posting this for people comments..this is healthy arguments and vice versa of opinions (general)