@Whatever77 I have been in a place where I felt like I needed to please people to keep them happy or feel right within myself. It was actually toxic for me and the built up feelings of angst were burning me out. It took a long time to realise that it's a futile endeavour.
There is a problem with that environment. People shouldn't expect us to bend to their whim all time but equally if we allow it by not trying be our authentic self then people will generally not try to help us change. The answer for me was in my self talk. I had to change the way I see myself and not be threatened by other people.
I don't know if your situation is similar or not. But I do know that emotionally you can't go through life trying to please other people without paying the price in your own mental or emotional stability 😁
Edit: And props to you for talking about it openly. That's a great step towards dealing with a problem 👍