Unbeknownst to your heart,
a path has been layed out,
a path for you to walk.
Laced with saphires and diamonds,
embraced by beautiful flowers,
and pure spring water for you alone.
A path that is an adventure,
a call that is about to come,
for you to see the light.
Under the cruciatum you will find,
what was always with you,
and always will be.
For the eye cannot see,
what the heart understands,
when it becomes one.
The Light
At the darkest hour, the new day began.
When all seemed lost, a new hope was born.
A flicker of light at first,
Barely seen by the weary eye.
Ever brighter it begins to shine.
Like scales it fell from our eyes,
and our gaze is drawn to the Truth,
the bright morning Star.
Ringing in the dawn, the Light, the joy.
Of a new beginning, a wholly new birth.
From the lifting mist,
our Way begins to emerge.
And bright shines the Star,
as the Sun shatters the black of night.
And the new Life that runs through our veins,
the given one,
holds us close.
@The-Mods said in A true friend will always stay a true friend...:
@pe7erpark3r Let me tell you something dear " THERE IS NO REAL FRIEND ANYMORR" FRIENDS COME FOR BENIFETS AND WITH BENIFETS NOWADAYS. thats why go eat well , play ur fav games , study ur lessons , do ur job and stay healthy .
well, how about becoming one then?
Isn't the reason why there are no real friends anymore, that we all desire "benefits" so much, that our own giving is conditional? Isn't it because we think that others should be for us what we really desire for ourselves (a real friend), rather than growing into someone who is capable of giving (that which we desire for ourselves) to others?
And isn't the fact, that we have all been betrayed by someone we thought was our friend, a way of showing us, that we are not yet capable of being hurt and yet staying true to being a friend?
I'm not sure if I have been abundantly clear above, but other than God I have not found a real friend yet. The other way round however, for two others I am such a friend – even if they don't understand yet and/or are not the same toward me...
@_divv_roxx_ ... so how do you think about it now? Makes a real friend all the more precious...
Someone I greatly appreciate once told me: You are lucky if you find a single real friend in your whole lifetime. This got me thinking for quite a while... Today I agree with him. Let me share with you, what I think a real friend is like. Then you will understand why I think it is so hard to find one...
Let us start with what most of our friends are: People who enjoy spending some time with us. This is also how real friendships tend to start: We find someone we have similar interests with, people who think alike, or people whom we admire for the ways in which they are different from us. These friends stay in our lives for a while, but if life moves us apart with them, eventually the relationship will fade. Which of course is okay! We don't have to stay friends forever with everyone in our lives. In fact that would be impossible...
Sometimes such a friend can become a real friend. A real friend will stay our friend forever. But that does not mean, that the relationship could not also fade away. Except that a real friend will try their best to not make this happen. If it does happen though – that is if it is our own fault that the relationship fades away – you will see that a real friend will want to rekindle the friendship when an opportunity comes.
Real friends can of course disagree with you, even strongly and on important matters. But no matter on what they disagree with you, they will still treasure you. In fact I believe that someone who (almost) never disagrees with you, cannot possibly be a good friend... That's because someone who treasures you, will try to help you to grow. They will tell you what they think you could do better, or what they think you are doing wrong. Not all the time, but every now and then. And they will be persistent, they won't stop telling you things you don't want to hear. Because they really want to see you grow. That's part of being a good friend...
I've had friends (not real friends) who were not able to disagree with me. This can generally appear in two ways. Some tell you always what you want to hear. You will never get proper feedback from them, and thus they cannot help you grow and become a better version of yourself. There is another kind: Some people cannot bear you disagreing with them. They'll start to argue with you, whenever you state an opinion that does not match theirs. Be weary of this kind of people. They can only see themselves. They need you to adopt their worldview so that they feel confirmed as a person. Someone like this is not mature enough to be a real friend.
You can hurt a real friend. Don't do that, definitely not on purpose, and try to avoid it even unintentionally. But, truth be told, we are dangerous creatures. We will hurt the people around us every now and then even if we don't want to. And with real friends, you'll see, that you can hurt them, and they will stay your (real) friends... They will however require an apology and depending on the gravity of your sin, they might even ask for compensation – if they think you have the means to do so of course.
You can also damage the relationship with a real friend. You can hurt them physically and emotionally. And it will impact your relationship, it might even end it. It will not change however that the friend wants what is good for you. A real friend will never hate you, and will never desire your demise, no matter how deeply you hurt them. In fact a real friend will desire your relationship to be healed – if only possible.
Real friends are willing to suffer for you, willing to be there for you when you need them – as long as you are not taking advantage of them. If you did take advantage of a real friend, they will speak to you about it. They will stop you from doing so if they can. Because it is not good for you to take advantage of others... And someone who loves you, will do their best to keep you from doing bad things... And a real friend will pray for you. For all their life. No matter what life, or what you throw at them...
It is not easy to be a real friend. Just about as hard as to find one. Realizing this one might feel quite lonely if one hasn't found one yet. Truth be told, the only such friend I have found in my life is God. Who is always around us, caring to madness... so its not impossible for you to find Him either. What has happened however is that I've become such a friend. Not for many, because that would be impossible. I'm not God, I can only commit so deeply to very few. One of them I haven't told even. The other one does understand that I'm her friend this deeply.
What about you? Have you found a true friend? Are you one? Or are you becoming one?
@kaia_ said in A sad song for someone:
@pe7erpark3r Haven't seen you for ages. How are you?
interesting times...
A sad song
I knew one day
you had to go,
to find your way...
But I remain,
unable to explain,
why it resonates so strong,
in my heart,
this sad song.
Will you remain,
unable to explain
why you had to go
unable to know
another's heart?
Have you found your way,
so that one day
you can stay?
Until that day,
may this sad song,
guide your way.
I pray.
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You should totally learn to use paragraphs, it would make reading your gripping thoughts easier and more enjoyable. 100 words is a good estimate for a meaningful paragraph, but one could also say that a paragraph contains 1 main thought, so everything in it kinda belongs together. And a new paragraphs means some kind of break in your line of thought...
The more you grow in life, the more you will be able not just allow friends criticizing you, but also other people. even if they don't mean well, you can still learn from what they judge you for. and conclude that you should or could really change that, or maybe applaud yourself for being the way that this person criticizes. True humility makes one's life a lot easier, it means you are becoming free from yourself, you don't need to be perfect anymore. Yeah, I'm so humble myself, I've trained humility for years and years, and I haven't progressed one bit :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes:
Jokes aside... Life loves you. You might not know Him yet, but He does. He also judges you, because that is part of what love is, because Love always wants to make you better. And He never gives up, He never can be driven away, no matter how horrible you make yourself look. He also always listens, but He wants you to trust He does, that's all. And He also does not need you to change yourself. He knows we are weak, and cannot do that. All He asks is trust. And then He will start to change you, as you take steps of trust with Him.
Yeah, you guessed, that is my own answer to your question. I did not know that answer always. In fact I felt a lot like you, even though I'm very different in many ways. And yet there is so much that connects us all. People always say you can be anybody you want. But little do they understand it is enough to just be you. Very much enough.
@Imjustalostgirl there would be no point in living if there was nothing to live for. Depression makes us think that, don't it. I can't remember who, but someone once said, that people who love – and I don't mean romance, I mean real love, like the one you have for your children, which you put into action every day – never seem to ask for a reason to live.
It is the result of having little regrets or having made up for your regrets in a proper fashion. And of course of not having gotten any psychological disease – these tend to disturb your peace against your will. It also is the result of a certain maturity. Might be related to people actually not fearing death anymore. And then there is one last way to die in peace: having found the Trustworthy One, in Whom Life never ends.
@WtfJudith said in Female, 16 yrl Looking for someone to chat with, I'm bored:
@Yoda-3-3 YES! among other things, i'm still pissed about the fact that people receive a notification when you leave a DM ):<
makes me feel like an asshole :joy:
Actually yeah, it would be much better, if there was no notification... and when the other party (who didn't leave) writes something again, simply a new chat would open for you...
@Indrid-Cold said in ... ... Babybel ?:
@pe7erpark3r There's still a lot of idiots and bourgeoisie.
Sounds like things have calmed down a bit :yum:
But for me, there can never be enough Covid measures. I got vulnerable oldies in my life. I'd buy everyone space-suits if I could.
Let's go full blown bubbleboy...
but seriously, I think people are acting a bit shortsighted with covid... just look at how hard the third world is hit by the effects of the measures. People are going hungry by the millions. The economic crisis will kill a lot more people than the disease. And it will especially kill the old and the weak. Just a bit later...
And I mean... it will hit europe. maybe next year. Seriously, we should find ways to protect the old/weak people, that do not require us to shut down the system.
it is as they say: half of us now looks like doctors, the rest like bandits :joy:...
however this corona thing... have masks been statistically proven to be effective yet?
I'm starting to grow tired of measures that cost a lot (in different ways) and have little impact... like in austria, they require people who go to church now to wear masks all through the service... when in all of austria there was a single case of someone getting infected while at church. literally a single case.
and the whole fear mongering is not growing on me either. I mean if you had a news ticker about the people who die in traffic, then nobody would drive a car anymore (it's a lot more than covid 19 deaths worldwide...)...
it's like the whole world is growing madder and madder... how is the UK? have things become less mad since the brexit has been decided or more mad?
@Indrid-Cold Impossible, you changed your profile pick. you haven't done that like in two years or so :joy:
@knownsense said in What is the greatest temptation in your life?:
Too much attached too temptation , plus a pethatic lie to give reasons to do it ,another words too weak to stick to own words and giving reason's to surroundings and beliveing on you own lie .. just manipulation insid your head...
well don't fear and stop with the lies to yourself and to others. lying has never really made anything better in the longterm for anybody – and certainly not for everybody.
@Scottish said in What is the greatest temptation in your life?:
@pe7erpark3r spidey i have a whole list lol. Off the top of.my head - smoking, drinking, brooding about past things i cannot change, obsessing about death, being distant from people i should be close to, being far too soft with people i know i should be hard with, working too hard, speaking before i think, falling in love with the wrong people, considering suicide (don't freak, I'd never do it, it's just a strange compulsion i can never shake off)
,i could go on but that's enough for starters lol. Bit i HAVE quit drugs, don't even miss them and i tell my mum i love her everytime we speak and im generally very happy so, you know, not too much to complain about
that is quite the list! however it's good to hear that the core of your life sounds intact, you know?
@Scottish said in What is the greatest temptation in your life?:
@Matt_Aranha i have this exact situation with one of my sisters. She is bad news, can't really think of anything good about her, she is a liar, a scrounger, a thief, a shit stirrer, a drama queen, self obsessed, deluded, nasty, resentful of other people's happiness, jealous, manipulative, devious, blames the family for the shit situations she gets herself into even though we are actually the ones who dig her out of the
holes she gets.herslf into, with our time, our money, our emotional and practical support etc
, and yet i still find myself caring about her and checking in on her, fucking nightmare lol
well some people actually are your responsibility. she's family. no helping it. except of course if not helping her would actually be the better kind of help...