How do I, f18, recognise when someone is flirting?

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I genuinely can't tell if someone is just being nice and friendly or if they are trying to flirt

[Cybernatic]

@PlzNoPervs hmmm plznopervs sometimes it can be a little difficult to recognize if somebody is flirting with u or not and at times it can be really easy. It depends on the person doing it really. He might go out of the way to do something or he might act more friendly compared to how he would act around a friend. He might say something suggestive or provocative. Its these little things that help u identify. But sometimes some people r just really friendly so sometimes it can be confusing. I hope it made sense to u and hope it somehow helped

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@Cybernatic I sorta get it. I guess I just have to surround myself with more people to fully understand you

[Cold Sun]

@PlzNoPervs women are so complex.

[Cold Sun]

I'm really tired of internet bull.

[Accountdeleted]

@Cold-Sun well im sorry for being socially awkward... didn't realise you'd need to comment on it if you weren't giving me the guided help I asked for

[Cold Sun]

@PlzNoPervs no need. I've met so many socially awkward people on net. And as I texted earlier, I'm really tired of internet dung coz it gives me bitch ache trying to figure out if some ladies just being nice and friendly or if they are trying to flirt. Who knows? YANA so just deal with it.

[Cold Sun]

@PlzNoPervs said in How do I, f18, recognise when someone is flirting?:

@Cold-Sun well im sorry for being socially awkward... didn't realise you'd need to comment on it if you weren't giving me the guided help I asked for

[Cold Sun]

@Cold-Sun go step on Lego pieces you busta.

[Cybernatic]

@PlzNoPervs that is a good start. Surround yourself with people, socialise as much as you can and meet new people and conversate as much as u can. And no need to feel down. Everybody starts somewhere right

[Accountdeleted]

@Cybernatic right! Thanks fo being awesome

[Cybernatic]

@PlzNoPervs np

[thelilash]

Irl, when someone flirts, he/she blushes a lot...plays with his/her hair...keeps smiling and staring at you...laughs even at your lamest jokes...tries to get close with you...you actually get that flirty feeling from him/her but on texts, its hard to determine as feelings cannot be felt.

[Lazz]

@PlzNoPervs If he still has his pants on, then he's just being friendly

[Morningstar neo]

@PlzNoPervs simply go with conversation and if it turns you out of your comfort zone means flirty end it and if you feel the person is right go with the flow unless you don't spend time you can't judge anyone if it's good at heart or just random flirty. TC

[Matt_Aranha]

@PlzNoPervs I really feel for you. I turned 40 this year, and I'd like to say it gets easier but you would not believe how common it is even amongst friends my age (male and female) to still be unsure whether people are flirting with intent, flirting playfully, or just being friendly. I've been told I'm a HUGE flirt at times when I've genuinely thought I was just being nice... it's a real minefield.

All I can suggest is that there is no substitute for experience. You might never grasp it fully (and that's okay, you're not alone in that), and there will be times you get it wrong, but over time you'll become a better judge. In the meanwhile just roll with the mistakes and try to encourage less subtle ways of communicating with you about attraction.

Hang in there - I hope you find the advice you need amongst the replies here.

[Alireza.27]

I mean its a hard thing to figure out from text . Because body langusge helps alot. I myself know it when someone is flirting because i feel a fonnection more than just friends