Anyone have unhealthy kinks? Dunno what to do

[DeadGirl4You]

My kinks are all so unhealthy I want to hurt myself badly physically and I want to be hurt mentally like degradation but based on my insecurities e.g. I feel fat (normal weight) and being called fat turns me on, but also makes me feel shitty and I pursue it but it’s fucking up my mental health.

[Matt_Aranha]

@DeadGirl4You Unhealthy is an extremely relative term. For example, it seems like in your own context your kinks are unhealthy for you, but I know some women/girls for whom similar behaviour is a catharsis, empowering etc.

I enjoy a BDSM lifestyle to varying degrees and am a sometimes active part of an online community where people have a full gamut of kinks which most people might be shocked by or judge unhealthy. It all comes down to how you approach and deal with these things, and why you're doing them.

You're welcome to message if you would like to talk about any of this with someone who has experience of the culture and doesn't judge.