@DeadGirl4You Unhealthy is an extremely relative term. For example, it seems like in your own context your kinks are unhealthy for you, but I know some women/girls for whom similar behaviour is a catharsis, empowering etc. I enjoy a BDSM lifestyle to varying degrees and am a sometimes active part of an online community where people have a full gamut of kinks which most people might be shocked by or judge unhealthy. It all comes down to how you approach and deal with these things, and why you're doing them. You're welcome to message if you would like to talk about any of this with someone who has experience of the culture and doesn't judge.