Can you honestly be honest?

[Zen00]

Honestly, we all lie sometimes. Some are pathological liars and lie constantly, some only lie when it is felt necessary, and some have crumbs of little lies that are seen as irrelevant.
Do you think you can give an honest percentage of how honest you are? Be honest, how honest are you?

[Kaho]

@Zen00
First of all, I'm 100% honest with myself.
Then I'm 91-99% honest with my real life best friend. (coz he know me very well )
Then I'm 90% honest with my real life friends
Then 70-80% honest with online peeps (but now there r some exceptions , coz I'm no longer introvert)
N then 50% for family... (Coz if they knew what I'm became now they will kick me out xD )

[Bela Hella]

@Zen00 what u sense me in here is what I am irl, however this is internet I preserve a big percentage of not exposing personal data and infos too much.. telling a lie over net must be 98% so u wont get broken hahaha, but in reality give yourself a 100% truth is next to heaven..

[Lurker]

@Zen00

I am generally honest with ppl but I tend to pretend everything is fine when the ship is sinking so that I don't worry others.

[nightshifter]

@Lurker , I tend to do the same thing.

[nightshifter]

@Zen00 , I’m 100% honest with my bff, she knows me well and is definitely closer than any family could be. I keep a lot of other people’s secrets and that includes keeping them from my husband too so I’m not sure how that scores. I’m probably 80%- 90% truthful online. Pretty much how I come across here is how I am irl. But obviously some Personal stuff u don’t just share online with everyone. There are some very nice exceptions here though. You know who you are. I do have a tendency to be brutally honest if you ask me something though I try to do it tactfully. You want the truth about something or my opinion you’re going to get an honest answer. Be prepared.

[[[global:former-user]]]

@Zen00 I am not honest. I am a dishonest person. Problem solved.

[[[global:former-user]]]

@IM-NOT-HO_NY

[ChaosKing]

I'll rate myself 70% honest. Mostly I choose not to answer if I don't wanna tell the truth and it is not necessary to answer.

[Zen00]

@Lurker it’s that just hope? Which is different from lying I think

[Zen00]

@nightshifter said in Can you honestly be honest?:

I keep a lot of other people’s secrets and that includes keeping them from my husband too so I’m not sure how that scores.

Do you consider keeping secrets lying?

I do have a tendency to be brutally honest if you ask me something though I try to do it tactfully. You want the truth about something or my opinion you’re going to get an honest answer. Be prepared.

I’m the same way!! If someone asks me something I will be honest, always. I don’t see a point in doing otherwise

[Lurker]

@Zen00

Hope? Nah, I don't think it's hope saying you are great when you aren't, but it avoids the followup question of "what's wrong". Some ppl can help and some others can't, it's just best to spare the worries of the ones that can't!

[Zen00]

@ChaosKing Is not answering something the same as being dishonest?

[Zen00]

@Lurker said in Can you honestly be honest?:

@Zen00

Hope? Nah, I don't think it's hope saying you are great when you aren't, but it avoids the followup question of "what's wrong". Some ppl can help and some others can't, it's just best to spare the worries of the ones that can't!

hmm. I guess, in my opinion, it can go multiple ways. Some people may say "I'm great!" in hopes that the laws of attraction will come into play and eventually they truly will be great (which is what I do). Other may say "I'm great" as just a filler, there was no thought into it, they just said it, but they're still fine. Then some might also be the way you describe, they just say it to avoid the "whats wrong" or worry others. But when it comes to something like that, it is hard to gauge whether or not that would be considered dishonest, because, at the end of the day youre the only one that knows how you really feel and only you have the ability to change your feelings.

[Lurker]

@Zen00 said in Can you honestly be honest?:

But when it comes to something like that

Do you consider omitting the truth not be a lie or being dishonest?

[Zen00]

@Lurker said in Can you honestly be honest?:

@Zen00 said in Can you honestly be honest?:

But when it comes to something like that

Do you consider omitting the truth not be a lie or being dishonest?

Depends on the situation

[Lurker]

@Zen00 said in Can you honestly be honest?:

Depends on the situation

Care to give an example?

[Zen00]

@Lurker a stranger passes you by on a crosswalk and asks "hey how are you" and you say "good, thanks" and continue walking to your destination. Perhaps your destination was the hospital and a loved one is sick and might die. You're definitely not good, but you told the stranger that you are. I wouldn't consider this dishonest. because no one expects you two to stop walking and a have an entire conversation in the middle of the street about how your week as been going. And even though in the moment it was a lie, and you're not good, you still will be in time. Everyone views things differently, and the way I view things is "if its not alright, it will be okay". So even though you're not good, you're still alive, you're still eating, you have a roof over your head, clothes on your body, etc. You're not good, but …. you're good

[nightshifter]

@Zen00 , keeping other people’s secrets from hubby is a bit of a grey area I guess. However some of the secrets are my kids secrets but still on a need to know basis and he will never need to know imo. It would cause too many problems.

[Indrid Cold]

Oh, cosplay Wonder Woman, it's obvious that's not a real truth-lasso, it's just a length of Poundland garden twine spray-painted gold, but having said that, I am going to tell you the truth because I'm a mentalcase.