@ryan78 said in share your problems with Layla!:
hey so iām a bisexual but iām not out yet. and iāve been talking with this guys from september to january. we stopped talking in january because we confessed to each other that we wann be together but because i wasnāt out it couldnāt happen. so after consideration i was going to come out to my family (who is 100% against homosexuality) so when I told this guy that i was gonna come out so we could be together he said āi hope you're not doing it for meā but when i told him i was doing it so we could be together he said āiām not attracted to you like thatā but he explained to me a few days prior that he didnāt wanna be with anyone because he liked me. so he told me he didnāt wanna hurt me so we cut out talking down to the minimal and we barely said a word to each other for 2 months. then i realized i can no longer live without him and that iām in love with him. now iām drooling over him and he doesnāt know i still love him. we started talking again and iām trying to avoid growing apart anymore than we already have. i donāt wanna tell him i love him because i wanna have him in my life. he doesnāt have to love me. i just wanna stick around and be a friend. and i eventually wanna see the guy who makes him happy. iām happy if heās happy but i still wanna confess my love to him but how do i do that without freaking him out?
OH MY GOD FLYING SPAGHETTI MONSTER. There are sooooo many different problems here. This is so complex
1st identified problem, coming out.
I think this video is enough:
2nd identified problem, your boyfriend friend.
Case 1, he isn't gay/bi
Just skip to the answer of the 3rd identified problem then
Case 2, he is gay/bi but he doesn't like you
I think this video is enough
If you understand that you need to earn love and try/have tried your hardest but it doesn't/didn't work skip to step the 3rd problem
3rd identified problem
You need to be straight with him (pun intended) and tell him that you'll always have feelings for him, that you won't make any moves (BECAUSE YOU WON'T AND SHOULDN'T) and that he hope he doesn't mind that whilst keeping you as a friend amd then hope that will time you'll find someone else. Maybe listening to sad love songs might help you move on... find a way but point is that after you tell him