@Niyaa hii Niyaa...
Can we talk.. I think it will be a great experience with you 🥰
Depressed and need to talk
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I dont want to lie awake crying at 2am.
I wish I had one friend to talk to -
@Bunnyrabbit same
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@Bunnyrabbit don't worry everything will be okay
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i got lost my friend here his Canadian his real name Danoy😥
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I've decided I'm going to buy myself a ring and ask him if he want to be my fiance. I don't know how he is going to react but I dont want to wait around crying over it anymore
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@dorkwujjle it's a really fucked up world we live in
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Well! I hope that you have a new Fiancee soon. And regarding the grinding daily, it sucks. Keep your head up! and eyes open!
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I am a single father, waiting on the woman to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes it gets really lonely but, my daughter reminds me every day how fortunate I am although unworthy.
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@Bunnyrabbit I can talk to you if you want to.
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@IM2Tata I know what it's like to feel lonely even when you have people around you. I wish I was closer with my family but it is too late to build a relationship with my parents.
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@pretiravati thank you. It is hard to k ow where to begin
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@Bunnyrabbit Hello ^^ , (sorry for my bad English in advance) (This one is about being on the next level with your partner)
Hmm... You both have been together for the past seven years and you see all of your friends are getting married and you're on your 30's, I see that you are feeling pressure by your surroundings and feel/want to do the same and don't know why your partner is not proposing to you. Before you buy a ring, talk to your partner why its been seven years and you guys are still not doing the next level of you relationship because, in my opinion (My Opinion) if I ever get a partner in my late 20's and on a stable relationship of three or four years, I will talk to them if they are ready for the next level (Its true that communication is the key but without comprehension of the one you're talking with, its not) and if they said yes, I'm gonna wait for them for proposing or do it myself, since I have been with my partner for many years and I know that they are the one for me especially when we are at our perfect prime to get married and I don't want my partner to wait more years like ten years (That it gave them anxiety and make them overthink) before we go to the next level, but.... if you guys start dating in your teenagers days, its understandable that you guys been together for a decade and still not planning on proposing to each other since you guys wanna enjoy life and being in that level of relationship.
Also, if you are buying a ring to ask him to be his fiance, go for it girl!!!! ^
I wish you the best, for real. -
To give you some more context. My partner and I are both very shy and socially awkward people. When we got together neither of us had been in a serious relationship before. I felt a kindred spirit and fell in love pretty quickly. He is my best friend.
He was a university student and we both were living with our parents.
We discussed the future. The plan was that once he has finished his degree we would look at the possibility of buying a house first and then getting married.
4 years ago we finally moved in together and 2 years ago he finished his degree and got a full time job.
7 years seems to be a long time for most couples I've seen online but it goes by so quickly. I dont think a year or 2 is enough time to fully know a person. The last 4 years have gone by in a blur.
A year ago we looked at houses and put in an offer but the sale fell through and that dream has gotten further and further out of reach.
I brought up the conversation of us getting engaged several months ago and he was on board. I sent pictures of rings I liked.
Communication is our biggest flaw. We struggle to talk openly when there is fear of upsetting the other person. I have considered that he doesn't want to get engaged and is worried about admitting that. The last time I tried bringing it up he said he wasnt sure how to be romantic and I was clear that I dont need anything special.
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@Bunnyrabbit
Oh my goshhhhh that is so cool, congrats on that. I'm so happy for you guys. Yup its different in every person, some might say that seven years is long and some might say its not and some might say four years is long and some might say not.Bunnyrabbit. Just always remember that life is not a race, 100 percent real. Life is all about experience and enjoying your own flow.
I like that you both talk about it. And yup, some people might think they are selfish when it comes to thinking about that, but reassure that you are not selfish and that is normal, especially if you have someone you wanna spend your whole life with until you both die of old age.
Just follow the plan that you both already have, you two are things that both already have for each other side.
Oh yeah, some advice that I like to share about housing, since it really do make sense. buy a old house not a new and furnish ones since its to expensive. It can save you guys a lot of money and together with your partner, little by little build the house of your dreams ^-^
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@IM2Tata
I know what you mean. I have a son. Kids are great but it’s hard to be the only adult in the house. -
@Bunnyrabbit Hey, I don’t really know where you live or what your situation exactly is, but if you’re tired of the routine you’re living, maybe you should take some time off (if you can) and think about what you want. I read that you wanted to buy your own place so maybe you should try to dream about it. It might motivate you. I’m 15 so I don’t know much about the workforce but if you’re good at what you do, I’m sure you’ll get a better paying job. There’s a way for everyone. You should take a bit time off of like, everything. Just take a small trip to a forest or the nature overall and just relax for a bit. It doesn’t need to be a long getaway. It can just be a day. I’m happy to talk more if you want. I can listen or try to give advice! <33
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Hey @Bunnyrabbit
I think it is your fears that are holding you and your fiancé from talking about this. And some day or the other you will talk about it. So I think you should take some time off for yourself and think about it. Asking direct questions will be very uncomfortable to you but it pays off because you're not carrying this weight around with you but sharing it with your best friend. The love would always remain because you both are best friends. If there's one thing best friends can do, that is understanding each other and caring for each other and being truthful. Remember bunny, he is your best friend. That's all you need to remember. You don't have to deal with these things alone. You both can make it safely and well through this regardless. The fear of anticipation is sometimes worse than the event itself you know. So don't carry it around alone and share it your love. Good wishes to you Bunny. Love.
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I’m tired of being. And it’s annoying that I have to result to a chat to say that… I just want the right person for both of us. I hate that I’m in this stupid ass one sided relationship.
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@Bunnyrabbit
Me too so tired. -
You know what is tiring is being the only adult acting maturely financially and emotionally in a relationship taking responsibility for the things you are not supposed to be but because I am freaking in love I did everything to make my partner of 4yrs happy but still not enough. :( It makes you broken and unhappy.
