@birdie24 I can understand it feels like a nightmare when we lose someone who are very important part of our life.
Feel free to talk or discuss
Have you ever pretended to be someone you aren't?
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Hello @Linda-nolen !
Personally, I love to play a role, change my first name, my style of dress...
In general, I base myself on my own character traits that I bring out as much as possible. It's easy, because I have a multi-faceted personality (and a little bit of exuberance). It's more or less serious. For me it's like theatre, it's a game, but you have to be convincing ! However, I never forget who I really am. I don't betray people I hold in esteem.On your side, if you talk about it, it must be because you feel that your relationship with role-playing is not healthy.
Why do you play a role ? : Is it because of a lack of self-confidence ? You don't think you're good enough the way you are to be loved by people ?
Do you even really know who you are deep down ? Maybe you idealize girls you see on social networks, for example, and think it would be better if you were like her ?I think you should dig deeper into that.
If that's the case, don't bother trying to be someone else. It's tiring and I doubt you're really happy like that. You're you, that's good enough. Besides, people who are observant must have guessed your little trick. And it's not nice to be misjudged.
I hope you'll find a solution.
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PS: I love the kawaii/Lolita style too.
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@Linda-nolen yeah 😅
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@Linda-nolen Hello, Linda
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@Linda-nolen btw. why are u using a fake pic if you wanna stop lying.
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Everyday of my life. Its sometimes necessary.
Sometimes in a relationship u gotta pretend to like sth to prevent a disastwror atleast try to get to a common ground. Sometimes at work u have to pretend ti like people so u dont lose ur job. But i never pretend about who i am and how i am. I always try to be honest about everything as much as possible unless i know it will affect everyone really badly -
@Linda-nolen yep, i did and the result was shitty enough for me to stop quickly.
(and tbh "roleplaying" or feeling like acting some way different isnt lying)
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I feel that is the way that I live my life pretending someone I am not, but at this point in life I no longer know who I really am.
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@Linda-nolen I have. I’m married w kids but love to be dominated by men for sex I’m a pretty tough guy but love to give oral to men. I don’t know why. I love sex w women too. Weird stuff
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@Linda-nolen I don't lie I just say what people need to hear from me .. just manipulate the , time, situation with words so honest lier ??