@WHAT2020 OK good :)
What are you scared of?
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@anonymous92 you're right, the fear of losing our dear ones can lead us to depression and the truth is I've also been there.
Let me tell you a short story and how I managed to get out of it...
I was born an extrovert but lived like an introvert for years because of circumstances and fear of the unknown, I'm also an extremist so when I care about someone I could go the extra length to do anything for them.
My life as an introvert sucked big time I can tell you that, I didn't have much friends because I was scared of being ridiculed, talked down, laughed at etc. I was a smart kid but no one would know becos I didn't look like one or even spoke like one, I excluded myself from the world and built a shell around myself, I thought I was doing the right thing, I thought I safe guarding myself but I clearly was punishing myself for my foolishness.
After years of being in the bondage I created for myself I happen to meet someone one day who became a good friend. We became really close because we understood each other so well that even our families didn't understand us that well. I knew her shortly before she got married but I was there for her, I stayed with her when her husband got transferred and she was alone, I was there when she gave birth to her very cute son, I helped her so much like she was my blood sister, took her son like he was mine and we were just always happy until one day they had to relocate and so did I, and that was the beginning of our separation.
We always had issues but solved them when we were together but when we separated the issues became worse as though we never knew each other. A lot of misunderstandings and problems,...it became too much....to cut the long story short,..today we nearly even speak to ourselves,....we grew out of our friendship and now we don't even know who we are.
The truth is, people will come in and out of your life but it beholds of you to maintain and control what they do with your life and how you let them control your emotions.
She helped me become who I really am (an extrovert) and that I'm forever grateful for, and I really wish I brings us back together again but I have tried all I possibly can but nothing worked.
Something's are better left alone, if its meant to happen again nature will find a way to make it happen.
Try not become too emotional when it comes to people, try not to become too attached, too expectant, those things hurt a lot and can lead one to intense depression. -
@xoyee thank you so much for the way you explained it all. The truth is that I too have become stronger after losing her than what I was before. But I still miss her a lot. I should say that this is the very reason why I joined TWS, to meet strangers. I am fed up of people who know me because sometimes they start behaving so weirdly that I wonder if I am talking to people I know — people whom I know for years become strangers. I thought it is better if I talk to people I do not know in reality. At least I won't expect too much from the people I am meeting here. And I am fortunate to meet people like you including the person who introduced me to you. It's almost about a month that I last talked to my beloved. But from yesterday I was really missing her a lot. She's all over my emotions and I was feeling so helpless. Your words will perhaps give me some strength. Thank you for the work you are doing here.
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i am scared that i will keep getting my heart broken and not being loved and just being abandoned
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@anonymous92 It's my pleasure to be here, thank you too for taking out time to read and at least understand what I say, I'm really glad I could be of help to you and every other person in here or out there lol.
Knowledge and positive information is not to be hoarded or kept a secret...so I believe", my purpose here and anywhere I find myself on earth is to share what I know or have learnt and help as many people as I can.
It's OK if you think you about your girl once or twice, but such thoughts shouldn't bring you down they should take you a step closer to your dreams and goals. -
@hbentley9090 hey there, if you keep being scared of the fact your heart might get broken then it just might actually get broken.
Ok here's an illustration I want you to understand.
Let's say you buy a bird right, she's so beautiful and smart you just want to keep her by your side all day long. Now that's not a problem for you but it's a big problem for the bird,..why? Because the day that bird mistakenly let's lose she will fly away and never come back. The reason is, while she was with you, she felt safe but not free and every bird wants to be free, so if you're so sacred of being broken hearted then you need to start with at least one relationship ok. Keep in mind that " it might not end up the way you want it but try it anyways, free up your mind, change your mindset towards" being heart broken",...no one has ever achieved success without failing first so start building up your heart, yourself for success by failing once or twice now.
Tell yourself you might fail, but also tell yourself you will get up stronger, that mindset pushes you closer to your point of success everyday.
There's nothing to be scared of about FEAR, when you give too much thoughts to the word "FEAR" it takes the better part of your life. -
My imagination
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@Huh you're scared of your imaginations?
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@xoyee yea, made up scenarios of shit that will probably never happen
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@Huh then stop thinking too much, stop allowing your mind roam unto dreadful thoughts.
The truth is, when you keep having such imaginations continuously, they begin to happen for real, your imaginations begin to express itself in the real life to you or the people you know or love.
Such thing can and might make you feel powerful and special but it's just the devil using your mind and your imaginations against you, I read a book once tittle " the power of your mind" you should find it and read it.
Our mind is a very powerful tool that can make us or destroy us depending on how we use it, the devil knows how powerful our minds are so he's always at alert waiting for whose imaginations he can use as a tool to carry out he's evil works, he works with our words, minds, thoughts and our imaginations and that's why we must keep them positive always.
Whenever you notice such imaginations coming again pinch yourself and snap out of it, divert your thoughts to something positive instead, stay on it for a while, it could be a happy moment with your friends or family, just stay on it until you're sure that imagination is gone.
If that doesn't work so well for you cultivate a positive habit like reading a book (a good one), singing, praying, playing an instrument...just something that will distract such imagination. If you continue like that, sooner or later you won't be having such imaginations again because you'll become too busy doing something positive with your life rather than being idle and having wrong or bad imaginations. -
@anonymous92 Yeah.. I'm scared of losing someone too yk.. N just to take this one step up.. I don't like losing some strangers I just met.. Lol. Like on Tws or other sites 😅😅. Kinda my fatal flaw :i like permanent things.. Like I want the day to never chg yk.. But it always does n we gotta move on. That's life, maybe.. N that's what I fear.
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@Imduck hey you know you are a nice guy! Have faith in yourself that you ain't losing anyone. Sometimes people leave us even if they know we wish them to be beside us. If such is the case, you cannot change their minds because they've other priorities in life — you cannot force them to be in your life. I have seen people changing very quickly over time and I think they somehow lack fidelity and consistency of their innate principles. Maybe they are confused as to what they want in life and what they do not. The more you will try to keep them in your life, the faster they're going to under-rate your loyalty for them. It is also natural sometimes, especially for people of the opposite gender, to doubt your loyalty because they're likely to wrongly judge you in case your intentions are not clear. So losing people should become natural in our lives but for that we shouldn't stop caring less about them or loving them lesser than we can. The desire to keep someone in our lives is not love. Love is just a feeling that asks us to be benevolent both towards ourselves and to others. If you suddenly notice an unknown child in danger, you'll perhaps try to save him/ her. At that point of time, you will not have the thought of losing the child or keeping it in your life. God has loved us and so we should love others. If they do not wish to be beside you, it's their personal choice. And remember, do not fall in love with someone on TWS. We are all strangers here to support each other. Your desire to possess someone may lead them to create another account and stop using the one through which you've known them!
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@xoyee Ngl, that is a lovely quote! I am actually afraid of a number of things, tbh. Like losing friends I made, getting separated from those I love and care about, and stuff like not getting liked and also getting criticised. A lot of people I have met here however, provided me enough hope and respect to continue my life and thought processes normally, so a big shout-out to them. I am afraid of losing friends because I just might be a little too open to them (never sexually) and because I just might be a little too talkative and naive in my sentences, you know?
Maybe we're perfect strangers...Maybe it's not forever!!
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@anonymous92 Yeah... Lol ur words r like the drops of rain from heaven yk #bad analogy 😅😅. What I mean is they r true af... Forcing someone.. Lol nah not me. If anyone's gonna leave.. N says so I'll happily bid him farewell.. My Fatal flaw lies deep within.. Wrapped in all sorts of emotions. I don't usually express them aloud or even trust everyone to respect them.
For the child or maybe a bunch of such children I might just step up n help them to the extreme. U could call that caring, or love or just doing my social deeds.. N that's one of the many things I wish to be a part of in this small life..
Lol as u hv said that abt opposite genders.. Well yeah it's the truth in the most raw means.. But maybe somewhere along the line it's trust that ppl don't usually have on others.. N that's the biggest difference between us humans n dogs for instance (maybe??) lol we don't trust easily n well they in spite of the inhuman acts starts trusting the very next person who comes to them.... Did u ever wonder why 🤔🤔.
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@Imduck Ha Ha Ha... Ducks are cute yk! And I feel so fortunate to have a duck who writes to me on TWS!! LOL! But do you know what's the weirdest thing I have experienced on TWS...?? Too many people keep Lol-ing too many times and even when they're actually frowning!! Their lols are so loud that I can almost hear them all from distant countries! LOL!
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@anonymous92 Lol.. It's kinda a habit I grew here yk.. Ppl don't seem to get the real content of conversation n. Easily get offended... The lolz r just ways used to.. Yk release the tension between the words. 😂😂 N lol.. Ducks r cute.. N innocent n trusts all.. N a lot other stuff ppl usually look for in friends.. Soo why not just be ducks for a while n get the world to.. Lol for every other silly reason 😂😂😂
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My face 😂
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@Johannes-Julians hey there, I understand you well, however, you don't have to be scared ok.
I have learnt over time to express myself how ever I want to either in the open or not without taking people's judgment about me so personal, the truth is that people will always talk good or bad about so try not to think of what people will say, instead build your confidence in expressing yourself without feeling ashamed or apologetic about it. Even when you think you're not making sense say it with confidence, sooner or later your non-sense will begin to make sense to people.
You need to also start accepting being criticized, it will help you learn and know more, there's no success without failure",
You passing through criticism and stuffs like that is like passing a sword through fire, when it's done the sword becomes sharper and shines brighter...that's how you shine when you're able to successfully pass through challenges of any kind. -
@xoyee Thank you! I really appreciate you trying to help!! I shall surely work on my inner confidence and stuff that might make me a more braver guy..
Maybe we're perfect strangers...Maybe it's not forever!!
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@Corpse hahahahaha so do I, my baby face is hereditary and I'm not scared or apologetic about it, infact I love it lol...i think you should too, it makes people unable to guess your age...
