Talk to lots of people, not just girls. Overcome your fears, learn to be emotionally present, to enjoy tension, to enjoy being yourself. Make something out of yourself, create your own business or find a job you like. Find a passion or two. Figure out what you want in life.

And trust me, this is solid advice to "get a girl". A girl you'd actually want that is ;-)

@nightshifter AMAZING :heart_eyes:

@Lurker said in What Was TWS?:

@OliveOlivia

As promised... here I am.
TWS is all about the community and the ppl that visit often / everyday. And this is what made TWS great, there was a time where a whole bunch of very interesting and fun users would visit pretty often and things were a bit more lively, but sometimes I wonder and think to myself if that really is the case or if it was only cuz it was "new", cuz when we get a new "toy" everything is exciting and interesting and fun but eventually it gets boring :shrug:

But yeah, TL:DR odl users that left made it amazing! Less pervs, no catfishes and bots more interesting humans, let's say there was a Olivia in every corner :smirk:

Yeah, I guess TWS has this strong drive on fullfilling all needs for as many users as it possibly can :shrug:. But that does block the grows of other things TWS would benifit from.

It would be good if there was a part of TWS were there was only the proper community, separate from all the pervs, catfishs and bots. I mean really, you guys should do that @TalkWithStranger. Stop the mixing. You will hardly allow a proper community to build if this things is flooded with HornyX looking for HornyY to do HornyZ... which it is. Just separate the two worlds somehow. It's not that hard... In case you want my ideas on how to do it, just ask!

Nobody knows what consciousness is and how it works. It is most certainly connected to the brain (since you can make people unconscious through some drug obviously) but that does not mean that this is all to it.

The philosopher Thomas Nagel thematisized this in "What is it like to be a bat?". If it is like anything to be a bat, then a bat is conscious. If it is not like anything to be a bat, if the bat just acts and reacts (including to sensations/feelings), then it is not conscious.

We cannot know if animals really are conscious. Heck we cannot even know with absolute certainty that the person in front of us is conscious.

So is it possible that consciousness might actually be something only we humans have? It is definitely a possibility.

It is also possible that the brain actually is not capable of producing what we perceive as "I" (which some call an illusion anyways), or what we call consciousness: the space in which everything happens that we perceive, all our emotions, sensations, thoughts, and yes, our actions too... It is possible that being conscious requires having a soul...

To be honest, I've experienced too many – let's call them: – impropable things in my life to still believe in a purely material world. But like any good scientist, I assume I could be wrong.

I'm trying to tell @TalkWithStranger for a while now to create a separate area for the "I want to fuck" posts and the posts of the real community. So far I don't think they have taken notice. You could just tag them (like I just did) every once in a while too.

To answer your question: Yes. Also, doing my best... How about you post some informative, fun, personal or emotional topic?

I bet as a kid you had a dream of what you would be one day. Most kids do. Not me though. I never had any idea what I wanted to be when I grew up. So what was your dream?

And now that you're grown, and know the world a little better, what job would you really like to have? It can be as unrealistic as "being a female swimsuit model" while you're actually a man. But it must be something you'd actually want to do in this world.

As a negative example, one might say "I want to rule the world and make it a better place". But being a dictator (that's what this is...) means you'll have to look over your shoulder each and every day, for the next guy who does not agree with your policy and thinks he'd do a better job. Yeah, you might not live all too long :yum:. So think twice before you answer this question :joy:

@OliveOlivia I agree with you. It is indeed possible to miss the one, to miss your chance. You are absolutely right, you can even be with the one and only realize it when it is too late.

However I don't think the one is about the fact that others can't measure up or cannot compare. In fact I'm rather certain that the grass really always is greener elsewhere. For example if you were married to the smartest guy on the block, there is a 99% chance, that there lives another guy on the same block who looks better. And just as high a chance that there is a guy who has greater people skills. And another one who's more romantic and poetic. So in one phrase: the perfect one is not the same as the right one. Sure you will fit together with the right one. But in no ways perfectly...

To be completely honest, I don't believe there is more than one. I believe there can be more than one soulmate yes, but not more than a single right one. But I agree with you, that we change, and that it is possible to lose or destroy the relationship with this right one, to grow apart even with them. Marriage is not the fullfillment of all your wishes, it is work and sacrifice. And that is how you know that the love is real.

@no-u said in anyone know what is ............. ?:

Anyone Know What Is Sexting ?

Ever heard of a sextant? It's what they use to navigate the sees when GPS is not available. So when you sext, you are measuring your exact location.

It seems people loove to do it these days. This generation is more confused than any that came before :thinking_face: :hatching_chick:

@davitchen said in Are men failing? Why?:

Why is it more frequent to women to be with women,

Wym? Like that there are more lesbian couples these days? if so then: society is becoming more acceptable, thus women are more open about it and feel less stigmatized to try...

and why are men failing so much at being with someone?

One reason is that men in our days are a lot less manly. They are losing their male identity more and more and thus are not able to give themselves anymore...

This results as @OliveOlivia said in either men who are completely controlled by their sex drive or in men who cannot stand on their own feet and try to depend on kind women...

Needless to say that women desire real men, who are neither of the above. I heard a good comparison once: for a woman to feel safe with a man, he must be firm like a rock in the ocean of her emotions. Kind of a beautiful image, don't you think?

Well who do you think it was?

I am reading two books right now, whenever I find the time that is. One is "Can't hurt me" by David Goggins. He talks about his own life that is so fucked up, you wouldn't believe it. And yet every few blows that life dealt him, he learned something, trying to turn his life around a couple of times. In the end he succeeds. It's a great read I tell ya.

The second book I'm reading is "On becoming a person" by Carl Rogers, one of the great personalities of psychology. This book talks about his psychological method, but since this method is so unique in it's focus, it really speaks to the core of being human and can teach us how to create deeper relationships. That's what it really is about.

@Connor27 said in C C C Catfish July is close to it's grand finale!:

@petrapark3r said in C C C Catfish July is close to it's grand finale!:

Don't forget to vote! Or it will be your fault if Trump becomes president again :triumph:

But that was Russia’s fault the first time :(

You know I actually like the guy. Keeps making me chuckle every time I turn on the news :joy:. Sorry for forgetting to mention you :heart:

@TalkWithStranger ...and my DMs are open yet again. Can sombody fix this please?

tag: CJKOTOOMANYQUESTIONSINTOOLITTLETIME... no time to answer them all :joy:

@Alte said in Do you use your tongue when you kiss?:

@LionCara How can you like that? It feels so empty.

Depends on how you do it. Everything can be sensual between a boy and a girl. The slightest touch, if you are really "dancing" together.

But I guess I still have to agree with you: I wouldn't enjoy it if it were ever only on the lips...

I just wish TWS was more reliable. loosing tons of posts and interesting conversations really does not make me want to stay. I wish I had an alternative...

Isn't it amazing how much we can miss someone who we've know for 22 days on the internet?

Also, that was quite the f up that TWS made there.

@Alte said in Goodmorning Radio 18/12/18:

... @pe7erpark3r ...

yay I was mentioned in a radio show, I'm a superstar now!

One subtle effect of legalizing euthanasia is that society will grow more cold: Even if nobody is explicitely pushing people to choose the easy way out, they'll still feel a certain pressure to do it. Here is why:

Because when you lose the ability to do something productive, most of us will soon feel – albeit if it was only every now and then – like a burden to others. Combine this with the fact, that if euthanasia is legal, at least some of the people around you will with absolute certainty bring up the topic with you. And there you have the subtle message: when your life isn't worth living anymore, when you become a burden to us, it is an option to free us and yourself from the burden that you are.

As long as euthanasia is illigal, people know that society – and hopefully the people around them – do not want them to go. Just the fact that we – as in society – and more personally we as the people around you, are against you taking your life, tells you exactly that: You are welcome here. We want you around. We love you. No matter what.