Yeah it is
this is again my question
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@A20 said in this is again my question:
Virginity is a big deal "for me". Yes, i marry her, i pay her dowry (indeed), then i grant her for whatever she wished, so what i get? Firstly i will demand her virginity, thats how i play the rules here.
So basically you are paying her for sex? Isn't that the definition of a prostitute? :thinking_face:
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@Eucalyptus He's not paying her for sex, but for her right to be preserved and for playing a role of being responsible to fulfill her needs, and she's playing her role in return of being a virgin as a proof that she is only for him as a husband.
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@The-Mods Soooo, after marriage you're gonna stay virgin.. noted
The comments here really amaze me, when are you guys gonna realize that women are not 'things' that can be payed for or your employees that you pay and then expect a 'service' from them?
Is sex considered a mutual act for you guys or is it something that is to be demanded by the man and given by the woman?
I don't know if y'all realize, but you sound stuck up as fuck
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@Eucalyptus No actually you sound up not understanding anything I said !! The Idea of being virgin is not only about women but both men and women should have respect towards their future 1 time partner as a sign of trustworthiness and purity and human self value. Paying money before marriage is for preserving rights and showing commitment and is usually made the man since he in most cases leads the family.
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@Eucalyptus I don't understan why ur saying after marriage I will stay virgin lol It's like excluding the sexual part just bcz I said virginity is not abt fucking !! I didn't say it is not including sexual activity!! But u as smart as usual concluding It but not this time smart girl , u messed up lol
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@Eucalyptus actually you should say those words for your bf , he literally said "would you buy a car without testing it?" he see you as an object for consuming not me. :)
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@The-Mods you are the one not reading what I said, since I very specifically replied to one thing and you're talking about something else entirely now. And what do previous relationships and previous sexual partners have to do with trustworthiness and self-value?
A person who has had sexual partners before their current partner can still be trustworthy and value themselves, that literally makes no sense whatsoever...
Paying money before marriage is for preserving rights
you do realize you are talking about sexual rights here, right? Thus confirming my initial statement...
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@Lake-Bodom when i used to be religious, i didnt believe in having sex before marriage. Since im not religious anymore i dont really care but i understand why someone wouldnt want to have premarital sex :)
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@The-Mods I say that because you act as if the virginity is what you 'pay' for.. As if you don't mean it's actually the right to be the only person that has sex with the person you're paying for..
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@Eucalyptus said in this is again my question:
And what do previous relationships and previous sexual partners have to do with trustworthiness and self-value?
Girl I said the same thing earlier in my post and it seems to go in one ear and out the other with these narrow minded men.
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@The-Mods well, would you?
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@Janet And the funny thing is. I see nothing wrong in wanting to stay a virgin and the desire to only want one sexual partner in your life. But all the demands and accusations, my my, how do they not see what they are saying?! :o
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@Eucalyptus I wonder how a smart girl like you can't connect between self-value and sexual availablity before marriage ?!! How can you be trusted as a human emotionally, sexually available for 1 or 2 or 3 etc boyfriends /girlfriends before marriage? Definitely not trusted. Giving up for ur sexual instinc is an backwarded act of a incomplete human( animal like human) that can't even honor his partner by purity not only sexually but emotionally on different levels .
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@Eucalyptus Exactly, people can believe what they wanna believe without throwing insults about the other point of view. But what do we know Euca, according to Nibby we are just whores and untrustworthy.
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@Eucalyptus I never said " my my " or " I rule or demand from her... etc" I already said both if u read.
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@The-Mods I said 'my my' in disbelief...
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@Eucalyptus Yes definitely, I never take rights without giving equally.
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@Eucalyptus Point out something I demanded.