how do you help manage anger?
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hiiiiiiiii^^ lately, i have been having some trouble with my temper... i have a history of having pretty bad anger management issues. throughout the past year, i have been doing extremely well with my temper. extremely well as in people never saw me angry. however, around three days ago, i felt something just snap, and my temper suddenly got extremely short! i really don’t want to go back to how i used to be because i caused harm to so many people, emotionally and physically. i would even break things. i don’t want to hurt anyone again. i think the thing that caused my temper to shorten all of a sudden was stress from school. i am seventeen, and i am in my junior year attending virtual school. recently, i have been told to help my older sister with her classes so she can graduate, so it has been double stress. i have also been distancing myself from my friends because i don’t want to accidentally snap at them. i also have a lot of assignments to do, so i don’t really have that much time to contact them. thankfully, the physical violence regarding my anger has not come back. however, i can still hurt people emotionally, which i absolutely do not want to do. thank you so much!!
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@peepeed420 I rarely get angry, not easily controlled by any external situations or people.
When I am at a loss with my feelings and have nowhere else to go with it, I cry. Angry tears. -
@kaia_
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@Cold-Sun For me, being angry is something to avoid at all cost and crying is way more acceptable. I don't want to do or say something in anger I will regret later on. That's why I try to hold in my anger and cry instead. But not that loud.
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@peepeed420 well, it seems like the repressed anger boiled up and erupted again. Anger isn't something we get over quickly, or silently. It is a valid emotion like any other, and it tells us more about us than the environment or other people. So a way to deal with it and dive deeper into why you feel angry when you do, instead of trying to hide away or dwell on the cause of the anger. Also, it might be a good idea to double-check with mental health professionals if you have any sort of hormonal or personality disorder just in case. With those things ruled out, you would just need to become more aware of the feeling behind those bursts of anger. sometimes it's not anger itself, anger might be just the defensive reaction to something else.
good luck.
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@kaia_ Well, I greatly give a lift to your tranquil reflection but truth is you can't keep doing it forever. I'm sure one day some buffoon's gonna piss off the hell outta you and you gonna have to atleast sting or threaten to.
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@Cold-Sun I've been there. Done that.
Normally what I do is to remain silent and quite and move out of that place under some pretext. Give them bad words will only makes us seem shallow and conceited -
@peepeed420 smoke weed lol kidding just try to take a break from social life go byurself to a nice remote place and question everything you feel try to understand the causes behind ur anger and learn how to chill , such experience will help u find inner peace
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@kaia_ thank you for the advice:)))) that reminds me of how people say “i’m so angry i’m about to erupt” but instead of erupt i anger i shall erupt with tears>:) THANK YOU AGAIN<3
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@kaia_ i totally understand that! bottling up emotions makes things worse so i’ll be sure to let out dem angry tears!!
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@Thales_BG THANK YOU SO MUCHHHHHH:) your advice is so insightful! my parents aren’t really uhh “on board” with therapy but once i become independent that’s probably going to be the first thing i’ll go to! i’ve been suspecting the immense anger is a defense mechanism because i’ve been sexually harassed by guys for a while. my father also raised me to be the “don’t take shit from anyone” kind of girl, so that resulted in me physically harming people whenever they bothered me as a child. AGAIN THANK YOU SO MUCHHHH<3 i hope you are doing well
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@The-Mods thank you so much for the advice:) sometimes i like to go into this wooded area in my backyard and just sit in the trees. i will be sure to do that more often!!!! again, thank you<3
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@Thales_BG WOAH IDK IF THE TOPIC WAS ABOUT YOU SPECIFICALLY BUT HAPPY BIRTHDAYYYYYYYY (if it wasn’t then HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAYYYYY)
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@kaia_ The only thing that'd make you seem shallow and conceited is how conscience-striking your words are in the skirmish but if you do have issues controlling the flow of the Grammer spear, I propose you stick to that but in cases where someone throws back heavy at you and everyone's just exposing uridine diphosphate rhamnosecas, my permission is yours to use the soiled dictionary. And also, if you think you have what it takes to deliver a perfect sting, sting where need be but I won't be there to observe those chest twinnies being swagfully plucked off
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@peepeed420 yeah, that explains a lot. Yeah, you should definitely check with a therapist as soon as you can, it might help you substantially. But there are therapeutic methods you can learn by yourself, to start the healing process while therapy isn't available. From meditation to small incursions into the deeper unconscious (both can be learned from youtube).
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@Cold-Sun If I fight fire with fire, the room will go up in smoke. I better put my ego aside and walk away. And, cry if I have to. It makes me calm down somehow. Once the rage subside, I can magically go back to my usual happy self. Simple as that. I won't hold any silly grudges towards anyone. Maybe yes, my ability to process the emotion of anger is not unlike that of a child.
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@Thales_BG thank youuuu:)) i will definitely check those out! i don’t have a job right now because my parents want me to focus on my studies, BUT once i do i shall save up for some therapy. stay swag>;D
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@kaia_ Harbour no grudge against me but I just can't imagine lol
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@Cold-Sun
.....feeling better after a good cry,
no grudge against you...
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@kaia_ That wasn't even a good cry. Come on you can do better than that
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