I think I'm trying to say people should simply be accepting of their own. Being proud seems to say you need some validation. Surely, if someone asks you should be able to stand proud and state your answer without fear of it being the wrong answer. If I go in a gay bar, for example, should I be shy to admit sex with women is what turns me on because the crowd is not with me or just give my honest answer and know I won't be getting a lot of requests for my phone number? Hey, who let me in this gay bar, anyway?