Friends are something that an average person needs. Humans are just made that way. But I think it's not correct to think that friends can fix everything, as well as that friends will stay in your life forever. Throughout life you will meet dozens of people and make many friends. But only one or two out of hundreds will be something you may call a "real friend". That's if you are lucky enough to meed someone with similar mindset and values that you have. People you call 'friends' will walk out of your life for different reasons (they may be insignificant or important) and will stay with you for different amounts of time. That's why I think that it's better if you put yourself/your life/feelings first most of the times when it comes to your friends. You can stay in a really good relationship with them even if you don't always put them first or give all of yourself into these relationships. Because each one of us have their own lifes to take care of. Those people who will want to stay with you and will understand you/love you - will stay. And those who don't - won't. Whatever you do for them. It depends on the mindset of the other party. Loving, helping, caring for your friends is great, but if you put them above other important things like yourself, then they will get used to it. And most people won't do the same for you or will try to use your love for their own emotional self-satisfaction. That's just how it is. So I think you just need to do everything in moderation and state values right in life.
domestic violence - not sure what to do
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Hi, I don't know where to go or who to talk to. My boyfriend has been violent to me on three occasions since february, and the last one that happened two weeks ago was the worst. Half of the time I think I should leave now, and the rest of the time I think about how much I love him and think he is fantastic and it's worth fighting for. I've been sleeping on the sofa on and off for the past two weeks.
Can someone help me figure this out? Or just share your experiences and hang out for a while :)
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@olivia_k lets talk about it, add me
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@olivia_k msg me , we can talk
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@olivia_k
Your thought of leaving is right.
You could call a women helpline number in your country or approach organisations working for the same.
Good luck -
It doesn’t matter how much you love him, he doesn’t have the right to abuse you. Leave before it is too late
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@olivia_k
YOU won't want to take the advice you are given because you think love him.
As a former counsellor who married a violent woman you can be comfortably assured that there is only one person who can change in this rerlationship, and that is you. You can continue being a victim to this guy and gradually become his punch bag, both emotionally and physically, OR, you can learn to be assertive, even if that means finding someone else to help you, and get this disgusting coward out of your life.
You never know, one of you two might end up on the coroners slab. -
@olivia_k you can always go ahead and kys yourself...to death..just saying
