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How do you stop loving someone that didn't do anything to make you mad or hate them. He gave some dumb selfish reasons saying he still loves me though. My mind and heart won't stop saying oh he'll learn it's okay he'll come back but you can't change selfishness. How do you stop the pain how do you stop loving them how do you move on. Is there ever someone else after a true love or do you just have to settle to be even close to happiness again....

@Lurker

I know and everyone keeps saying oh it just takes time and you'll never stop loving that person but get through the grieving process and someone else will be there waiting for you but it's like this person had so many good traits except the one they decided to leave. My ex did it for a selfish dumb reason (he thinks there shouldn't be any compromises in a relationship and would rather end up alone then not "stay true to himself"...) But how do you find someone with all the same qualities.... Sure I could find someone who isn't selfish but they won't be a gentleman or funny or childish with a serious side or vice versa or laugh at the same stuff I find funny or love Halloween and a ton more. It's like you get one good trait but end up losing others or they have those but then have something else wrong.... I probably sound like a horrible person but when you actually find someone who is truly great in a lot of aspects your standards go up and then you realize how hard it is to actually find people like that... Maybe ive lost my true love all because he had one issue he couldn't work and now I have to pay for it....

I'm not good with relationships or friendships. I'm too shy and it's hard for me to reach out. About 5 years ago I had my first boyfriend and it was abusive emotionally mental sexually and at one point physically. I finally left him but it was hard and I was alone for almost 3 years. I was so depressed and lost any hope of love. Then I guy came into my life and it turned everything around he was so respectful and gentle and trully genuine. And we meshed so we'll our personalities and our views and it's so hard to find someone who agrees with your beliefs not religiously but moral's. And it was perfect and we were together for 7 months I had never been happier but then things in my life got stressful and I can't handle stress I break down easy and instead of supporting me or helping me he saw me as nothing more than a burdan and it turned into fights alot and he just dumped me. He was angry and didn't even take time to think it out he acted impulsive but knowing him he's not going to come back but I'm still madly in love with him. And I just don't know how to cope or move on or be strong. I feel so empty and so much pain it physically hurts. how do you ever find someone like that again? how do you get through the pain? How do you stop loving that person? How can I ever be happy again....

@Lazz I do agree and I know time is best and just move on. It's just so hard because he says he still loves me but he became so angry and defensive. And it's not like we had to change who we were to be together we just needed to change, learn and grow. But for some reason he ended up resenting me. I'm not sure if I'm in the denial stage of greif or if I'm finally seeing stuff clear. Apart of me hopes that he will calm down one day and realize the mistake he made and just realize it wasn't as hard as he made it but apart of me hopes I never see him again because what if the same thing happens or he refuses to any of that stuff but still begs for me back..... The hardest part and just having the feeling of someone therem to hug and kiss and I loved rubbing my face against his beard it was so comforting and I can't sleep at night without his snoring. I'm all over the place

Long story short my bf broke up with me but said he still loves me. He hasn't talked to me or anything but hasn't changed his relationship status on Facebook or his profile picture which is still of us and it's been about a week now. So I know he still loves me but broke up with me because of there was too much fighting. Does it mean he still wants to be with me and we can work it out? His he being stubborn like he knows he still loves me but is still a little upset and doesn't want to talk it out with me or admit he wants me back? Is it pride? Everyone says listen to the signs but I don't know what they are. Should I chase him and let him know how I feel and where I stand or should I wait for him to make the first move or should I just move on because no matter how much he loves me he won't come back? I don't know what the signs are and I really don't know how men work other than you have to explain stuff to them a few times. He is stubborn sometimes but he (almost) never has a problem swallowing his pride and apologizing when he's wrong of mad a mistake I'm sure he's just as confused as I am. But I don't want to charge him and risk pushing him away further but I don't want to wait forever and then he just decided to move on if that's not what he wanted.... I need help

I just wish It never happened.... Suffering sucks in general but suffering alone is worse..... I get there's a "lesson" but what the hell did I do to deserve it in such a horrible way. It feels like it's my fault and I know my faults but am I really that horrible of person...

Wish I knew how. How are you doing it? You seem further along than I am.

@Lurker well maybe its because we're going through the same thing but I don't pity you. Yeah I don't want pity either but it feels nice to have people care or understand.