ADVICE
Someone Give me advice!! I’d appreciate it. Especially if you’re a guy :)

This guy I’m with did something that kind of hurt me or at least made me think a lot. There was this post that said “if you think flirting is cheating please grow up” and he liked it. I saw it because I also follow the same page that posted it, so I saw that it said “his name and other liked this”. I got pretty upset because Early in our relationship when we were Just dating..he actually flirted with my friend. But since it was so early I let it go. I know it’s stupid but the love made me blind. And Ive seen him Follow girls And like many of their pictures..although he denies it. So that’s why him liking this post made me feel some type of way. He’s making me seem crazy for this and that I’m doing too much. And he’s getting mad at ME. So I just wanna know if I’m overreacting or if I should cut off ? And give advice too what else do you think about the situation.

It’s so good That you see the problem and what you’re doing wrong. Just by doing that, you’ve actually taken a step forward. My advice is to ask him how he feels about it. Yes it’s important to tell him that you want to change this behavior. But it’s also important to ask him what he thinks about it. Because if you only speak about how you want to change and only speak about your behavior you’re still kind of doing the same thing. So make sure you also gets his perspective on it. And ask him how he thinks you can change and how you guys can work on it. Try to show him that you want to hear him this time, and not just ‘tell’. Good luck love!

@Lockdown
Thank you! I appreciate it. I definitely see your point

@Matt_Aranha
Really love your advice And answer in general. I agree! It’s easy for me to ignore the red flags now But it will Get Worse If i put up with it.
Appericate you answer, Thank you!

I should probably add that that I’m girl. And we have been together for 2 years now. Also one time when I went to a troupe he got so jealous because he thought I was partying and hanging out with guys and he was going all crazy talking abt “ I hope we’re on the same page and know that flirting is considered cheating” and I was like of course? Because I would never cheat on him. And then lately i feel like he’s talking to someone else idk why and that’s what made him like this post because I kind of was annoyed at him. Which makes me think

@f22x
Thank you love.
I appreciate the answer. I’m 18 And he’s 19 turning 20. And i agree that there is no reason to be in a relationship where you’re constantly suspicious. The thing is I try to communicate with him, but he never admits things and he gets mad if I even put up what’s bothering me. I talked to him about it. He said “I just like random stuff”. And he says he finds flirting cheating. But I feel like he says that so I won’t, but deep inside he thinks he can do it. (Just what I feel from our convos). One day he’ll talk abt what he consider cheating, the next he’s not following what he said. But he just got mad that I even took it up. So he isn’t good at communicating at all. And he never admits things. He will say something and claim he never said it even if I heard it with my own ears. Also I don’t think liking other girls pictures is cheating btw. So yeah I feel like it’s better to leave. Nothing is worth it if the communication isn’t there :)

@Lucifer114
Thank you for your answer.
And no don’t feel Sorry i take the criticism in this situations since I asked in the first place. I understand how you feel like it’s not love. I’m sure if you meant From both sides. Personally I never saw it that way. I always feel like I love him. But we all said that once to a person so I totally get it. :)

I would choose to tell them. Because It’s not just a ‘crush’ But someone you ‘love’ And love is strong! So If It’s love then What Do you have to loose Rejection sucks, especially if it’s someone you love. But then at least you can move on. Better than the pain of waiting.

It’s so good That you see the problem and what you’re doing wrong. Just by doing that, you’ve actually taken a step forward. My advice is to ask him how he feels about it. Yes it’s important to tell him that you want to change this behavior. But it’s also important to ask him what he thinks about it. Because if you only speak about how you want to change and only speak about your behavior you’re still kind of doing the same thing. So make sure you also gets his perspective on it. And ask him how he thinks you can change and how you guys can work on it. Try to show him that you want to hear him this time, and not just ‘tell’. Good luck love!

@Lucifer114
Thank you for your answer.
And no don’t feel Sorry i take the criticism in this situations since I asked in the first place. I understand how you feel like it’s not love. I’m sure if you meant From both sides. Personally I never saw it that way. I always feel like I love him. But we all said that once to a person so I totally get it. :)

@peachpie
Trip** my bad

@Matt_Aranha
Really love your advice And answer in general. I agree! It’s easy for me to ignore the red flags now But it will Get Worse If i put up with it.
Appericate you answer, Thank you!

@Lockdown
Thank you! I appreciate it. I definitely see your point

@f22x
Thank you love.
I appreciate the answer. I’m 18 And he’s 19 turning 20. And i agree that there is no reason to be in a relationship where you’re constantly suspicious. The thing is I try to communicate with him, but he never admits things and he gets mad if I even put up what’s bothering me. I talked to him about it. He said “I just like random stuff”. And he says he finds flirting cheating. But I feel like he says that so I won’t, but deep inside he thinks he can do it. (Just what I feel from our convos). One day he’ll talk abt what he consider cheating, the next he’s not following what he said. But he just got mad that I even took it up. So he isn’t good at communicating at all. And he never admits things. He will say something and claim he never said it even if I heard it with my own ears. Also I don’t think liking other girls pictures is cheating btw. So yeah I feel like it’s better to leave. Nothing is worth it if the communication isn’t there :)

I should probably add that that I’m girl. And we have been together for 2 years now. Also one time when I went to a troupe he got so jealous because he thought I was partying and hanging out with guys and he was going all crazy talking abt “ I hope we’re on the same page and know that flirting is considered cheating” and I was like of course? Because I would never cheat on him. And then lately i feel like he’s talking to someone else idk why and that’s what made him like this post because I kind of was annoyed at him. Which makes me think

ADVICE
Someone Give me advice!! I’d appreciate it. Especially if you’re a guy :)

This guy I’m with did something that kind of hurt me or at least made me think a lot. There was this post that said “if you think flirting is cheating please grow up” and he liked it. I saw it because I also follow the same page that posted it, so I saw that it said “his name and other liked this”. I got pretty upset because Early in our relationship when we were Just dating..he actually flirted with my friend. But since it was so early I let it go. I know it’s stupid but the love made me blind. And Ive seen him Follow girls And like many of their pictures..although he denies it. So that’s why him liking this post made me feel some type of way. He’s making me seem crazy for this and that I’m doing too much. And he’s getting mad at ME. So I just wanna know if I’m overreacting or if I should cut off ? And give advice too what else do you think about the situation.

It will Probably take the rest of 2020. But Are you eritrean? Just wondering Cuz your name just sound eritrean