Help Needed: Long term relationship breakup!

  • Today, my gf of 7 year relationship just left our home and this is the most difficult situation I have had in my life.

    2 weeks ago she just snapped and said she had no more romantic feelings about me but just cared. We have had a struggling life together and that is probably the reason she has lost her identity.

    I wanted to give her space but I didn't want to lose her forever. She is the one and my only love and it hurts so much at this point. She isn't sure she wants to follow this path and stay with me for the rest of her life.

    I dont know guys; I have been pretty strong emotionally but this experience is crushing me in a way I had never imagined.

    I have only her; no one else; she was and is my best friend and only friend and I dont know where to seek help.

    Anyone gonne through the same experience?
    Much appreciated!

  • @wave123 Hi ! I know how you feel, even if my relationship lasted 1 year and a half. My bestfriend and I, we fell in love for each other (btw we're both girls) but two months ago she said that she had a weird feeling. We did a little break and came back together after 3 days, but a month later she still felt weird and we did a break again for one month. But it turned out that she just didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. Because she wanted to grow up and figure out herself more and just be single. And I'm still in love with her, so it hurts a lot. We broke up a few days ago and I'm trying my best to recover. We're still best friends and we still talk very often. But it's hard, because I really thought that later we would live together, and that she was meant for me. And I still kinda hope we'll get back together in the future. I think your girlfriend wants the same thing than my girl, she wants to live alone, experience life on her own, because like you said you went through a lot together. And you can't do anything than leaving her do that. You have no choice and even if it's hard, believe me you'll get through it. Even if you feel like she was the one and you'll never find someone like her, you will move on. You have to experience life on your own too, and you'll fall in love again. It's okay to be sad as fuck, your relationship lasted for 7 years and you're still in love. But you'll see that you are strong enough to move on. People fall in love, break up, learn, move on. It's life and even if it hurts a lot it makes you stronger. Try to socialize with other people, meet new people, make friends, do things that you like, maybe a sport, music, art, anything. You need to be happy on your own. My girl told me "life is unfair, so just give her a big middle finger and say "I'LL MAKE ME HAPPY MYSELF, BITCH" and that's exactly what I'm trying to do and you should to. Don't worry, it takes hella lot of time, but you'll get through it !

  • @suniko Hi there. Thanks for your thoughtful comment. I dont know what will happen and how things will turn but I will try to make myself better and win her heart again later.

    I dont give up that easily and I know what I have done wrong. Life is too long to be alone and worse, lose your soul mate. She still wants to talk to me and we"ll see how it will go.

    Lately, it makes me sad when I hear such stories happening to other people and your story too. It's just crushing to see people suffer from love damn it.

    Thanks again and cheers to our happinness!!!!

  • get her jelly @wave123

  • @wave123 Hi I know your post is quite old but I am in a very similar situation to urs except my boyfriend broke up with me. Just wanted to see what happened with you. Going thru this is really really hard. Please let me know

  • @ayesh17 me's been ten weeks for me and it hasn't got any easier. After 9 years together and then for it to be over out of the blue is so gut wrenching. I may have taken this easier if she didn't keep saying she doesn't know to us sorting it as I still feel there's hope but I'm starting to feel like there is no hope as if she truly loved me like she's always said,then she wouldn't have left. Or she would at least tried to work this out before just leaving.
    Do you have any hope on getting your bf back?

  • I know how you feel Bubba only she didn't just decide to walk in my case she gave me every chance in the world and then some. I Pushed Shoved Kicked and then Threw her out of my life. I think every day and night about it and wish I'd have just listened to what she said in all the little things that in most conversations get lost. We're men so by default Idiots on the subjects of Listening Understanding and then allowing our female counterparts Guide us to where we need to be. They understand this and learn it about us quickly, yet we can't seem to do the same. If you get the chance to have any conversation with her then there may be a chance for you. If she won't talk give her time and space and if you have a mutual friend that she trusts and respects the opinion of first prove yourself to be true of heart with them and they will be your Champion to fight the battle subtly for a possible chance to hear her tell you in ever so subtle ways what you must do try to show her why you deserve a another chance. But, be forewarned my friend she will tell you without any lie or deception, she won't even disguise it as something that it's not (i.e. a road map to fix it) but it will be in the form of a puzzle to what matters to her most, the things that made her fall in love you to begin with. She will test if you still remember who he is or was, and she will weigh what she remembers to what she sees and they better add up Bubba or you won't have a chance. So if you played the game to win her heart go on and fold cause she just called with a raise of all in so play your Straight and hope to see her Flush, cause this ain't a hand you play to win, this is one to give from your stack to hers so she has a reason to keep playing and not cash-out.

  • ask sorry and marry her immediately

  • lol that could work too.


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