First, I share my story's !!!
I met this really cute guy at a party. We hit it off and he asked me out for dinner. Yay!
When he came to āpick me upā it turned out Iād need to drive; his car was in the shop and a friend had dropped him off.
No biggie, but I wish Iād known ahead of time since my car generally has about 14 pairs of shoes riding around in it and I could have done something about that.
Weāre headed off to the restaurant we had agreed on when he says, āOh, and youāre going to need to pay for dinner. I lost my job a few weeks ago and Iām really broke. Thatās cool though, right?ā
I turned the car around and went home. No, you canāt come in. Call the friend who dropped you off and have them come get you.
Nope, not gonna happen. Donāt need none of that.
If he had been honest from the beginning, Iād have been fine with planning something free or cheap - going to a park or having coffee or whatever. But this whole bait and switch thing just wasnāt cool. Too many Big Red Flags.
Another time, when I was trying online dating, I had a few doozies.
One guy, who was very proud of being Dutch, showed up for cocktails in actual wooden clogs. The only thing he wanted to talk about was how cool being Dutch was.
Another guy met me at a bar and immediately told me heās actually married and looking for someone to have a threesome with his wife. She hadnāt actually agreed to such a thing, but, āYouāre so hot, I know sheāll be down for it when she sees you!ā Nope.
And there was this really sweet guy who was cute enough and fun and smartā¦but his voice sounded, I kid you not, just like Minnie Mouse. I just couldnāt take the poor guy seriously and told him we couldnāt date. We were friends and hung out for a while, until he revealed that he had a huge crush on me and we agreed the friends thing wasnāt working. I felt a little bad about that, but every time he opened his mouth I just wanted to giggle.
