it depends how bad my mental state is
We used to talk all the time but now look at us...
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@Nosnikda-Life-Poet yeah which mainly happens when a younger person is dating an older person right?
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Let me give you an example. There was a young lady who was in my opinion a good friend to me. I for so long thought that the other guy she hung around was her boyfriend. Later own she said she was irritated with me, because I was blind to see she really was into me. She told me the guy was her cousin. I totally got the signs crossed. That why its important that people communicate their intentions.
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Actually, @Rissa_TheBest it can happen in any relationship. Age is not a factor when it comes to matters of the heart and misunderstandings.
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Just imagine a guy could be shy and waves at you, To you he is just saying hi. To him he could be saying I want to get to know you..... If he never says anything how will you know....
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@Nosnikda-Life-Poet I get what your saying
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These days its even more difficult, because if a person doesn't come out and say what they mean right out, because people text instead of face to face all the time, well you can get misleading information.
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@Nosnikda-Life-Poet I'm with you in that part, because I have my own experience of someone that wanted me , but passed many days and I thought that was just part of the conversation, I was purely blind for Many reasons, days later happened a situation and I ended asking her to date me, when I was thinking back on the days that we were only talking, I saw many signs that she really wanted and was just waiting for me get the signs
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@DennisJM that is exactly the point. We have been taught that to come right out and say something to someone is being too forward or even worse we are nervous because we have been taught to fear rejection by society. Its better to say what is on your heart and mind, get a yes or no, then move on. Even if the answer is no, you realize the person is not for you and you can move on with life.
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@Nosnikda-Life-Poet and these always lead to frustration, what is sad because we live in a world where everything is like water in our hands recently, even relationships, so this make us afraid to risk what we have, to give a try on love , as best example, the existence of dating apps, you don't need to search your love or feel something, just swipe right, talk for some minutes, ask to a quick date, and in the next day, just a hi hi, like nothing happened.
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What I like about @Rissa_TheBest is that you really engage a conversation and really defend your argument. I could swap thoughts with you for hours.
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@Nosnikda-Life-Poet unfortunately she is sleeping now 😅
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It is quite possible. I am the worlds greatest night owl. lol. Not many can keep up.
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@Nosnikda-Life-Poet I'm following you, so to not make this topic too long until the owner comes back we can discuss in pm if you want okay? Or prefer to share opinions here, well I'm not smart as @Rissa_TheBest but I know that she will let me continue
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Go right ahead here. She will join soon. this will boost her original discussion
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@Nosnikda-Life-Poet alright, I'll try to follow this train, as you said talk with text can lead to wrong places due to wrong informations, many times, I saw someone asking, do you mean, or was sarcasm, because of lack of a emoji, today with text we hide our real faces with masks and we can be whatever we want, so is always good have an extra caution, once again this lead to frustration because of many ifs that can happen,and the feelings get hidden to themselves, what is no healthy, and create scars and even traumas.
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or they just rudely blow u off, or catch em chatting somewhere else and it is like dude. ass.
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the worst is because many do not want to text much, they shorten their responses so you get partial information. Then when you ask them to explain that take so long to answer that the translation has already been damaged.
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@Nosnikda-Life-Poet yep. even worse when dating the person and they tell u oh i didn’t realize i had to. 🤷
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Dah dah dah
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The worst is when you have a two part question, but the person you are talking to simply says no so you have to ask and clarify....