I wanted to take a minute to apologize and explain myself for the things I said in my post last week. This will be a long post, if you don’t know what I’m referencing or if you don’t care, this isn’t the post for you. However if you are one of the really chill people I’ve had the pleasure of talking with or if you were someone who cared enough to comment on my last post, this may be for you.
I wanted to start out by explaining myself and hopefully you’ll understand why I went off and wanted to rage quit the site.
Before I get into it I feel like I should explain why I joined the site in the first place. I liked the idea of chatting on a platform that wasn’t linked to any of my social media our of privacy concerns. I liked the idea of being able to chat somewhat anonymously with other users just to kill time whenever I had down time at work. Which, when you’re working 8-10 hour shifts at night, the night can go by very slow. Between attending to my patients, doing rounds, charts, and the potential for an unexpected emergency situation to present itself, theres not much going on during the night shift. Aside from the various unsyncapated beeps of the machines, its pretty quiet at the nurses station. And I’m not into playing games on my mobile device, nor can I watch anything with the sound on, and after awhile watching with subtitles for a while it starts to put me to sleep. So I thought chatting could be something that would keep me engaged and entertained as a means of killing time with out compromising my responsibilities at work.
Now listen, I know that as the owner of a vagina, I knew that joining the site I was bound to get a few messages from people that were only interested in conversation that was of a sexual nature and or i’d get an uninvited nsfw picture. Unfortunately its the harsh reality all women have to deal with on the daily online and in real life. You more or less develop a thick skin and brush a lot of it off. You pick and choose your battles. But after I joined the site it wasn’t just a few messages, it was a tidal wave of guys messaging me requesting pictures, wanting to sext, wanting phone sex, wanting to nsfw webcam, or asking for my social media. For every one message I would seriously get 10-15 individuals that would send messages that were sexual in nature for every 1 down to earth chill person. At first I ignored them, then some got rude when I told them I wasn’t interested, then I started getting sexually harassed by a number of them. Thats were I draw the line. I don’t put up with sexual harassment in my real life and I won’t put up with it online.
As time went on, so did the onslaught of unwelcomed sexually explicit messages. My patience had worn thin. I lost my chill and said “fuck it, I’m done”
Thats when I posted that farewell post.
I didn’t use the site for a number of days before logging on to go about getting a permanent deletion, but i checked my messages and it so happened I had a message from a moderator. He took the time to reach out and address what i had been going through on the site, recommended some settings, and tips (such as reporting users by flagging them, blocking, and certain rooms I might want to avoid) that could improve my experience with the site. Something about that message left me chilled. I thought If this guy took the time to calmly and respectfully check up on me and offer solutions to my issues, then I at the very least owe it to him to at least give him the benefit of the doubt and give the site a second chance.
I’ve set my profile to only accept messages from people I follow moving forward. I’ll fill out my profile interest later tonight along with a disclaimer in my bio stating I am not interested, nor will I participate, or entertain any manner of conversation that is sexually explicit in nature. Anyway, that it for me for now.
So with that being said, I want to apologize to the site and anyone I upset with the post referenced above.