@G-G
Hi. I am sorry to hear about that.
How about you follow and let's discuss; provide you with some words of encouragement. Take care.
Can You Give Me Advice
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I'm nice, many people like me, and I know many people I can turn to for any reason and talk about anything with. Thing is, I don't want to. When around people I immediately want them gone and their presence bores me. There are very very very few people I can enjoy myself around, but even from time to time I find myself with them and wanting something more, and I don't know what it is. I'm a fairly talkative person. If people are around me, I will talk to them and make good conversations and they will quickly see me as a friend. Though, I hardly see anyone as a friend. I've conversed over the internet, I talk to many people irl almost every day, yet still no one seems to interest me for long aside from the small group of friends I already have and their entertainment can only go so far. Is there something wrong with me? Is there a reason that other peoples company makes me feel so indifferent? I want to be able to enjoy myself when around other people, I want to make real friends that I will actually consider a friend and not just them calling me a friend. Does anyone else relate to this problem? Can anyone offer a solution?
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Yes
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Not sure if I can find a solution for that as I often struggle with that myself...
But because of that reasons I tend to close myself / distance myself from ppl in time so it makes my circle of friends real small... And it's also the same with love / emotional bounds...
I often feel like they don't give me what I am looking for and that's why they end up falling behind in my interest. It feels pretty cold and sad but that's how I feel as well. -
@TheGoldenMole
This needs no solution.
You’re not Special.
There are many who are like this.
I’m not one of them.
Be what you are.
Unless you’re a psychopath. -
Um there could alot of reasons for that. First it could be a physiological thing there are many people who doesnt really find themselves comfortable around other people. Or the 2 nd the friends u have arent really people u can trust um u can see that they call u friend but maybe they arent really someone u can rely on blindly so well idk i dont really know a solution to that i recommend u to think twice about ur friends and visit a physiologist .
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Hey! We're in the same current.. I have my levels of friendship tho. My social skills will depend on who am I with. Overall, I can initate a good conversation IRL and people will start to feel comfortable with me. I just can't stand fake people.. you can read it on their eyes and their gestures. There's nothing wrong in limiting people to discover the deeper-than-the-sea- floor-you, they have to gain your trust to go over to that fortress you built for yourself. I believe in quality > quantity type of friendships, I don't need a lot of friends. I'll be glad to have one truest friend for the rest of my life :)
Kill them with kindness :)
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@Karina-Kara yes what?
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@TheGoldenMole
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@Lurker said in Can You Give Me Advice:
Not sure if I can find a solution for that as I often struggle with that myself...
But because of that reasons I tend to close myself / distance myself from ppl in time so it makes my circle of friends real small... And it's also the same with love / emotional bounds...I don’t like cutting people off from me. I still talk and hang out with people, I’m just indifferent while doing it, I’d rather that than not even try.
I often feel like they don't give me what I am looking for and that's why they end up falling behind in my interest. It feels pretty cold and sad but that's how I feel as well.
Do you know what you’re looking for?
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@Wolfie_11 I didn’t say I was special, but since you said I’m not maybe I should include that I am. Though it is irrelevant because you are too, as is everyone else. If you think otherwise then you should think again
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@ayetofi said in Can You Give Me Advice:
Um there could alot of reasons for that. First it could be a physiological thing there are many people who doesnt really find themselves comfortable around other people.
I feel fine around other people. I just lack any feeling towards them I guess?
Or the 2 nd the friends u have arent really people u can trust um u can see that they call u friend but maybe they arent really someone u can rely on blindly so well idk i dont really know a solution to that i recommend u to think twice about ur friends and visit a physiologist .
Yeah, a lot of people call me their friend and I don’t even trust them like that 😂 but there are a few people that I do consider friends and I know I can trust them. Perhaps it is trust, and maybe it’s trusting is the only way I can make friends :shrug:
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@TheGoldenMole
Never said I’m special.
I’m just different to you.
And I’m not irrelevant, neither are you.
On second thought, I believe yes, we’re all special in our own mind and way indeed, unless you’ve a twin. I thought again, and then I’m saying. Maybe you’ll see me build a space travel portal with a range of several galaxies and then you shall believe me. Till then, you’re free to assume my irrelevance. :) -
@cjko Maybe it is that too. There are times when I talk to someone and I’m thinking “this person is total bullshit”😂 maybe we can just see through the fake, and if we don’t want it then we cant bond with it. I also believe in quality over quantity, that’s why I cherish the very few friends I have
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@TheGoldenMole yeah right.. who wants to get along with a fake friend ? No one, right? I only have few friends whom I can trust ..
Kill them with kindness :)
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@Wolfie_11 I didn’t say you’re irrelevant 😂 if anything I said you’re relevant because I called you special. I said the need to point it out is irrelevant, not you. I don’t consider anyone “irrelevant”
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@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
I don’t like cutting people off from me. I still talk and hang out with people, I’m just indifferent while doing it, I’d rather that than not even try.
I don't like to cut ppl off, but at some point it just feels void and pointless to keep em so I just let go so I can preserve some of my sanity. It's not a good feeling when you feel you give more then you get.
@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
Do you know what you’re looking for?
I do, but what I'm looking for might be too farfetched! :joy:
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@Lurker said in Can You Give Me Advice:
@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
I don’t like cutting people off from me. I still talk and hang out with people, I’m just indifferent while doing it, I’d rather that than not even try.
I don't like to cut ppl off, but at some point it just feels void and pointless to keep em so I just let go so I can preserve some of my sanity. It's not a good feeling when you feel you give more then you get.
I understand that. Sometimes an intire conversation can seem pointless 😂
@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
Do you know what you’re looking for?
I do, but what I'm looking for might be too farfetched! :joy:
Hopefully not or else you may never find what you’re looking for 😂
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@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
@Wolfie_11 I didn’t say you’re irrelevant 😂 if anything I said you’re relevant because I called you special. I said the need to point it out is irrelevant, not you. I don’t consider anyone “irrelevant”
Damn. I misunderstood it then.
Then our point is the same lol
I’m still gonna build that portal though :) -
@cjko but now I wonder if fake friends want fake friends or if they still want real friends? If they want real friends then why are they fake?🤔
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@TheGoldenMole said in Can You Give Me Advice:
Hopefully not or else you may never find what you’re looking for
Farfetched isn't impossible tho I just gotta keep trying and it will eventually show up! :D
@Wolfie_11 said in Can You Give Me Advice:
I’m still gonna build that portal though
Please do, I will use it so freaking often and will forever be grateful to you :joy:
