He has been sending some sunset picture to me and that happened.
Help guys!
If two people are liking each other or so called special but not in a relationship is it a pre requisite that you have to be open,honest and loyal??
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@barton said in If two people are liking each other or so called special but not in a relationship is it a pre requisite that you have to be open,honest and loyal??:
you shifting the responsibility to that person.
Just cuz I act the way I do, doesn't mean the other part has to. It's up to others act however they please. I just know for a fact, if I had feelings for someone and that someone had feelings for me and we would agree we don't want a relationship rn, I wouldn't be cheating on her or keeping stuff to myself. I would do as i always do when i'm in love! If the other person doesn't wanna be that way, it's up to me to accept it and live with it or not. Just cuz I wanna live at 80, doesn't mean i'll force others to live at 80 as well.
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@mr-h so what do you expect that person should do when you are acting the way you do?
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@barton being a priority is not childish..and even mature people have childish ways in them.. Priority doesnt comes with space or no space for each other but respect I guess not space..
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@bela-hella what do you mean by respect ?
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@barton A mutual understanding in every pros and cons is a total respect and it doesnt work on space.. you can adjust and make time it may not be as everyday but i dont understand what is space purpose is for..
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@barton said in If two people are liking each other or so called special but not in a relationship is it a pre requisite that you have to be open,honest and loyal??:
@mr-h so what do you expect that person should do when you are acting the way you do?
If my gf is cheering for man united, do I feel obliged to cheer for them as well? No, cuz I have personality.
I don't expect them to do anything, I expect them to be themselves the same way I am myself ;) -
@mr-h said in If two people are liking each other or so called special but not in a relationship is it a pre requisite that you have to be open,honest and loyal??:
I expect them to be themselves the same way I am myself
You are putting them in a compromising position where they will be forced to chose an outcome which is ultimately desirable to you. So you want them to embrace your personality by ditching theirs. Thats called emotional blackmailing mate.
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@bela-hella the spaces purpose is to leave room enough for their individual growth. a room for their own.
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If they bend to my personality, it means they have a weak personality.
I've been in 2 somewhat long term relationships and I could be myself while the other person could be as well.
If the other person feels complied to act differently cuz of your own personality, how am I the one being the one blackmail them? Should I stop being myself just cuz they can't be themselves? Makes no sense to me. -
@barton my title post is liking.. What is liking? For me its ultimate purpose is "to be with" that person.. If u like a person do u need a space? I think not! Coz you will be more excite to be with that person than being apart..
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@bela-hella So long as you are open and honest to the person that you are in a relationship with , what difference does the rest of the world make. When you look outside of the relationship you start to notice opinion's, judgement and various other types of concern.
The bottom line of it is, if you and your partner are happy, who gives a dam? It's nobody else's place to made comment. -
@shaun-durwin I am not posting this for people comments..this is healthy arguments and vice versa of opinions (general)
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A husband filed a divorce suit. The reason sighted was not getting any sex from his wife. The court rejected the suit saying sex is not a promise and the wife has every right to deny her husband's wish.
The point is no matter how deep you like each other, it is pointless to expect loyalty, openness and honesty from the other person just because you are willing to do the same.
I don't have anything to add further. Let us agree to disagree.
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I dunno shit about relationship.
Im sure most of them have the same problem. -
@sup Lucky for you,you dunno shit relationship..
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@barton said in If two people are liking each other or so called special but not in a relationship is it a pre requisite that you have to be open,honest and loyal??:
no matter how deep you like each other
I think that's where we collide, I couldn't "like" someone that was not loyal, open and honest in the 1st place, so I guess that's why I never thought like that.
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Well that depends. Maybe not at first but it they continue talking to each other and stuff, then yeah I'd say they should be open and loyal. If not then it's just wasting time no?
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@bela-hella Honest yes. You should always be. Open. To some extent but just because someone is special doesn’t mean they have to know every little thing in your life. Loyal ? It depends on what your talking about. Am I not suppose to like someone because my special friend doesn’t ? Is that not being loyal ? Too many questions with loyal