Hurt,hurted and hurting



  • Why do we hurt the ones we love,and let them hurt us back??
    I wanna know why? Coz it seems so easy



  • @bela

    I'm not sure there is a specific reason as to why we hurt the one's we love. But I do think that it comes from not thinking.
    examples:

    • I'm just gonna stay out another hour, I should let my partner know..... ah it's ok, she'll/he'll be fine with that
    • Hmmm, I'm not getting enough at home and that person over there has been giving my eyes for a while now

    People become complaisant and thoughtless as to what they may be doing that hurts their partner. This can then easily turn into a spiral of deceit where it then becomes hard to break the chain.
    Sadly in this day and age it is way to easy to hurt your partner, either emotional or physical. Such a shame that this seems to be part of human nature. 😞



  • @bela Feeling guilty is worse than feeling hurt



  • @bela 😞 we all go thru that, and these things will keep happening, its a part of any relationship...Whats more important it what we do about it and move forward..



  • @bela We can hurt and get hurt intentionaly and unintentionaly every minute. People tend to act, behave, think and feel differently with persons they are close to and have developed some type of connection. I think it comes down to emotion and understanding between each other. We tend to get comfortable with and around persons we are close to and that makes us open for different scenarios and actions which could hurt us. Sometimes we love a person(be it family members, friends or partners) but yet we could have better understanding and harmony with a stranger. Why? Emotions. We lower our guard for persons we are close to which besides love bring other things too. I think a lot of times we hurt and get hurt due to being fooled by our emotions and thoughts, especially in relationships. Usualy one side feels and cares more than the other, and fails to see or understand that. So sometimes being hurt is our mistake, we made it happen. Overall, we should expect to be hurt or that we will hurt at some point. Nobody is perfect, and those situations can actually help people to figure out how connected they are, and are they willing to work at fixing those things or they didn't find it worthy in the first place.



  • @bela

    When I get hurt or when I feel broken or breaking apart, I always tell myself "there's a reason for everything", so I look for that reason and while looking for it, I always manage to feel better and somehow cope with this new reality!


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    It's a hard life, it's a long hard fight to be true lovers forever.
    Unfortunately I don't know the answer why.. Maybe we all asking the wrong question. So easy to make theories about it, and on the other hand too hard to live through that..



  • @bela We are humans after all. We have the so called "emotion" so this is normal especially in a relationship.
    The real question is how do you move on or what will you do after hurting someone?

    It seems easy because we respond to feelings immaturely sometimes.

    I always believe that you cannot extinguish a "fire" with another "fire". So when somebody hurts you, keep calm, check the whole story, forgive if possible, and move on. Only immature people will fight the fire with fire.



  • @spaceboy im in a confuse state of mind rn..I am lost in space😟



  • @what-is-this Your words are sincere and great..I really appreciated that you reply..I love the thoughts and the content is too realistic..I screenshot this so that when I am fully okay I can read it back and absorb..Thanks



  • @wildwallflower yeap sad but true we mostly hurt the ones we love,and let them hurt as in return.. Then after the hurting,next phase regretting..



  • @bela well, if i have to hurt someone, i'd rather been back off or disappear or may be stop to communicate with that person. πŸ™‚

    Btw do you have willow instagram or hang out bela? I miss her i guess.



  • @bela Hey np πŸ˜„ I'm on phone and when I was writting I didn't expect that I will cover almost entire page with an answer hahah. Sorry about that



  • @what-is-this Great reply indeed!



  • @g-a said in Hurt,hurted and hurting:

    Btw do you have willow instagram or hang out bela? I miss her i guess.

    Seems all miss her, but we dont keep in touch outside tws maybe there are some peeps here who can help you..
    Calling all the attention who can help Aput,kindly dm him..thanks



  • @bela said in Hurt,hurted and hurting:

    @g-a said in Hurt,hurted and hurting:

    Btw do you have willow instagram or hang out bela? I miss her i guess.

    Seems all miss her, but we dont keep in touch outside tws maybe there are some peeps here who can help you..
    Calling all the attention who can help Aput,kindly dm him..thanks

    As far as I know, She left her instagram to ppl that she wanted to talk to. Might be wrong myself, so take it with a grain of salt.



  • @mr-h said in Hurt,hurted and hurting:

    @bela said in Hurt,hurted and hurting:

    @g-a said in Hurt,hurted and hurting:

    Btw do you have willow instagram or hang out bela? I miss her i guess.

    Seems all miss her, but we dont keep in touch outside tws maybe there are some peeps here who can help you..
    Calling all the attention who can help Aput,kindly dm him..thanks

    As far as I know, She left her instagram to ppl that she wanted to talk to. Might be wrong myself, so take it with a grain of salt.

    Yep she is on insta most of us here knows her username but its not good posting it here or suddenly give without her consent,respecting privacy is best deal



  • @bela said in Hurt,hurted and hurting:

    @mr-h said in Hurt,hurted and hurting:

    @bela said in Hurt,hurted and hurting:

    @g-a said in Hurt,hurted and hurting:

    Btw do you have willow instagram or hang out bela? I miss her i guess.

    Seems all miss her, but we dont keep in touch outside tws maybe there are some peeps here who can help you..
    Calling all the attention who can help Aput,kindly dm him..thanks

    As far as I know, She left her instagram to ppl that she wanted to talk to. Might be wrong myself, so take it with a grain of salt.

    Yep she is on insta most of us here knows her username but its not good posting it here or suddenly give without her consent,respecting privacy is best deal

    What a cool word 😏
    Bela is growing to be a mature human being.
    πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘
    I feel amazed with your significant tranformation.



  • @wildwallflower Glad you liked it πŸ™‚



  • @what-is-this Your words are amazing that you dont recognize it seems your writing an essay lol..





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