@OliveOlivia said in E N T R Y:
@petrapark3r I understand what youre saying but I think this is something that is hard to revisit and try to recognize where the blame lies. This situation isn't something that just happened when I was little it has been my whole life and still is, I don't even know where responsibility can be taken when I've been nothing more than a naïve child, unaware of what a father figure was supposed to be. I don't think I could blame my dad either, I'm his child so I'm sure he loves me -at least I hope😂-I just don't think he knows how to really be a dad either, and I cant blame him for that. I think all I can do now is recognize that the problems exists and try to be more aware of the choices we both make.
The example with the old memory was more about showing that these things have a very real impact on our current day lives and also that they can be resolved in a very real way.
Talking about things, really talking about what you feel right now, and what you felt in your past, with someone who does not judge you and just accepts you in the here and now, can do wonders. Seriously. Read up on Carl Rogers if you want to get an idea what I'm talking about. Genius of relationships that man.
Responsibility is something other than blame. Maybe talking about things deeply makes it possible to give responsibility where it belongs, maybe not, but it will allow you to grow, I have no doubt.