I did report it. We live on a reservation and the police do not do anything back then. He was talking about my wife but I k ow he was just trying to hurt me and cause issues in our marriage back then. That was when the divorce was going through and he realized she was no longer his to control. I. Just fearful it will start happening again and I live my wife to death which is why I am even still around. I was just showing his character and how am I supposed to be okay with her texting someone who has said those types of things to me? When she first met with him and I was unaware I told her the meetings that I am not aware of had to stop immediately or I'd be gone. Since then she has told me every time they go and talk about her kids. I originally was ok with them texting and said if it helps see her kids more often then ok. However, since then I have become insecure since she texts with him literally every day. We talked about it a few nights ago that I wasn't okay with it but it hasn't stopped. She told me that she indicated to him to back off but it hasn't slowed I don't think. I don't want to start pulling cell phone records, but I am not blind. I see the texts pop up on her phone while we we go throughout our day. I told her I wasn't ok with them being friends. She looked at me funny and said "I am not friends with him. He is the man holding my kids hostage against me." I really don't know what to do. I mean, I deserve my wife to respect and honor my wishes and it doesn't feel like that's happening. It just feels like how can she be sneakier so she isn't caught. I am about to bounce on this marriage if things don't change. I started this board so I can just air out all my shit in front of strangers to hopefully get some clarity on what to do. I'd love marriage counseling but the nearest Walmart is over 150+ miles away let alone a counselor.