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As an older brother, I don’t want to see my sister struggling with her school works. Since it is inevitable for students, I pamper her with everything she wants in return for her hard work at school. However, I have observed that she’s getting spoiled through time. She’s starting to ask me expensive stuffs. Three weeks ago, she told me she will be her school’s representative for the national spelling bee. If she will be able to get the first place, she’ll win free tour to Hongkong. And just last night, she told me she actually got the first place. With that, she asked me to buy her a Canon EOS 80D DSLR Camera for her tour which is very expensive for me. I’m so glad for her achievements and will always be but I don’t think it will be good if I buy her one. I realized that somehow, it’s my fault why she becomes a spoiled brat.

Hi everyone. I am glad that you guys responded to my post. To clear some points out, I have been doing this to my sister because I want to reward her for he achievements. It somewhat a psychology thing; positive reinforcement (rewards) strengthens good behavior while negative reinforcement (punishments) weakens it. In this way, I can make her focus on gaining more achievements and doing the best that she can to achieve a goal. This strategy actually helped her to be more goal-oriented than she was before. However, it had resulted to an unwanted behavior. She has somehow see me as her reward machine or probably her wish factory. Due to this, I have decided to heed your advice that I should I can still pamper her for her achievements but still have to control her desire for expensive things since I want to grow up knowing there thing that she has to work for herself. Anyway, thank you so much.