personally, I don't mind the height of the person I date, however, I am a tall f (1.83m) almost 6 ft I think to 6 ft. so telling them my height is a way for me to get an indication of how men would deal with me being tall or even taller than them. Some men feel emasculated by my height and start talking down to me or they'll become insecure and try to make me feel weird for being tall. so they can feel better about themselves. Hopefully, it does not bother them and they deal with it in a healthy way where they don't feel the need to compensate for my height by bringing me down. If they do not deal with it well I simply stop dating them. quick assessments like these prevent me from getting unnecessarily hurt and wasting time. in general, I think a lot of women like the idea of a ''strong'' traditionally masculine man who has muscles and can make the woman feel safe. height is a good indicator of strength and safety in that sense. For a lot of people, height doesn't matter. It only matters to the people who desire or feel insecure about their height.

I am sorry to hear this is happening to you. you do not deserve this. As for the question of why you, it is probably because of your quietness that makes you a target especially if you're alone often. you are quiet and therefore easier than someone who let's say is more likely to resist or scream and fight. I am afraid I can't tell you specifically why they chose to hurt you. hurt people hurt people. which is not an excuse or fair but sadly it happens all the time. I hope you can get away from this situation either through time or intervention. I know it is hard, but if you can find someone you trust ask them to help you. you do not have to solve this on your own. it's nearly impossible to do that. And it is for sure not your fault. you deserve to be left alone and be happy. I hope this helps.

personally, I don't mind the height of the person I date, however, I am a tall f (1.83m) almost 6 ft I think to 6 ft. so telling them my height is a way for me to get an indication of how men would deal with me being tall or even taller than them. Some men feel emasculated by my height and start talking down to me or they'll become insecure and try to make me feel weird for being tall. so they can feel better about themselves. Hopefully, it does not bother them and they deal with it in a healthy way where they don't feel the need to compensate for my height by bringing me down. If they do not deal with it well I simply stop dating them. quick assessments like these prevent me from getting unnecessarily hurt and wasting time. in general, I think a lot of women like the idea of a ''strong'' traditionally masculine man who has muscles and can make the woman feel safe. height is a good indicator of strength and safety in that sense. For a lot of people, height doesn't matter. It only matters to the people who desire or feel insecure about their height.

if you tried communicating your needs, and he responded by apologizing and telling you to calm down. it seems to me that he is more focused on not having the ''issue'' than solving it. You can tell him that if he likes to be in a relationship with you he needs to communicate more. I don't see how you'd fix the problem any other way. perhaps you can try explaining that due to the distance, you'd like more attention and affection. just like you said here. and that his apology followed up by dismissing your emotions is making you feel more neglected and less loved. Perhaps he's apologizing because he sees you expressing your emotions to him as an accusation of wrongdoing. which logically makes his attitude more defensive and less engaging with what you said and how you feel. and more focused on avoiding blame. I don't know much of anything since I was not there and this is all the info I have. Take this advice with a grain of salt, everything will be fine. Maybe avoid words like always or sentences that start with you never this or that. and start by saying I feel this when you say that. hope this helps I'm sorry to hear you feel neglected. you deserve to be and feel loved.